A
female
age
41-50,
*risty
writes:Hi, i just found out my boyfriend has some gay/bisexual "friends" back home in a popular website. I didnt even know he had a page until i saw him in my friend's list!! he didn't add me at first i would send requests and never accpet me! and gave me the excuse that he created that profile long time ago and never logged in until my friend convinced him and edited his page for him! i asked i could do it for you and said no my password is secret and confidential! ok my point is i saw one of his "friends" profile has like 500 man in his page he also has almost nude pics so i asked him about him and said ooh yea i just found out! we went to college together and no one knew he was gay and he asked me and if he is gay what's wrong? i said nothing is his decision. But i just realized he's been adding more "gay/bisexual" friends (he has 5 now!)and they r not from back home! couple in other countries,1 here in the u.s.a and the others back home. Most of them say they are straight but have bunch of male friends leaving gay comments and pic comments. My boyfriend hasnt leave then any pic or comment but i am afraid he messages them cause of course he doesnt want me to know! Am i being paranoid!? all i know a straight man don't have lots of gay/bisexual friends from different parts of the world!!!!!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): sorry, deep down he has unexplored feelings towards men.. most men have these feelings and most never act on them.. and he will never admit to this. It could be he is exploring these unknown feelings and denial meanings he is scared, unsure or worried he might be bi/gay.. by interacting with other guys with the same feelings, he might be taking comfort from this. I really would not worry, let him discover himself in his own time. Him reacting as he has when you bring the subject up, is a defence to let you know he is straight and is scared. Now, I could be wrong, but stand by him and support him while he is going through this. Try not to be jealous, but is also a natural feeling you are experiencing.
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): Your bf shouldn't be punished for having gay friends. I don't exactly see what he's done wrong.
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female
reader, love-him  +, writes (21 August 2007):
 hey hun.. in actual fact, a lot of people have friends which are happy with there sexuality like being gay or bi.. and your bf obviously finds them friendly, and nothin more!.. i personaly think u shud just forget about it.. can i ask u something though, are you homophobic? sorry if you arnt just it realy sounds it from what you are saying.. stop worrying and dont be jealous!! x
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