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writes: I've just come across this site because I've been researching the 'micropenis' condition. I hadn't ever heard of this up until a few hours ago. I've been going out with this amazing guy for three months now and have never been happier. As relationships go we've taken things very slowly. Two weeks ago I tried to give him a handjob for the first time after he had used his hands on me. I presumed he wasn't in the mood but was a little surprised that I couldn't even find his penis. I just presumed that he didn't have an erection. Today we got quite intimate. His scrotum/testicles are larger than average if anything so I felt them right away but all I found where his penis should be was a tiny rise that felt like foreskin and a soft tip of a penis no longer or wider than and inch. It was a little moist and he was breathing heavily, I tried for a while to see if maybe he was just a grower but nothing happened on it got slightly harder. He didn't say anything and hadn't mentioned it before. After 10 minutes or so he said he wasn't himself and that he was sorry and went to the bathroom. I felt so surprised and confused I didn't mention it today but decided I'd google it tonight and found all this stuff about micro-penis condition and the pictures are just what he seems to have. He's 6ft 3inches in height, has a six pack, extremely fit and into sports so it's definitely not a weight issue. He's almost 18 so he must know himself that it's not a normal development. I just really don't know what to do or how to broach the subject and I would appreciate it so much if someone could help me out. This seems to be the only site where people haven't laughed and made fun of people with the condition so I'm hoping someone can help. I know at 18 we're very young but I'm sure its something that is effecting him hugely and maybe if he sorts it out now the rest of his life will be much happier. I really do care about him, hope I can pluck up the courage to do something.
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reader, anonmicro  +, writes (27 July 2012):
He needs to be tested for testosterone asap cause its possible he started puberty later or had it delayed by a medical condition. If he needs testosterone he is still of an age to get started on it and have possible penile growth. He waits much longer and he might be out of luck. He needs to see an endrocinologist(sp) asap. Unless he is really short he will have to force the issue with most doctors. I had a family practice and urology practice tell me i was fine. Finally saw an endo and after their exam they did blood work,dna and found my testosterone was way low.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (25 July 2012):
 He was quite possibly nervous as all heck. Anxiety fear or stress hurts bpmers. Im still dealing with several sexual issues n havent had sex for a long time because of it. Hypnosis may be my only solution but with him maybe he needs to relax more. Ive been able to get wood but i have a huge fear of penetration bc of some experiences ive had. Ask him if he has anything on his mind about intimacy. Maybe hes insecure? Maybe hes not used to ur stimulation yet? Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2012): I don't know about the medical side of this, like whether it can be fixed or not. I just want to state that, you should not feel bad about yourself if this is a deal breaker for you. Some might say it is shallow but it is not. Beyond a particular size limit, it can really interfere with your sexual experience. There are women for whom intercourse is not important. And there are women for whom it is very important. You should not be pressured to sacrifice it if it is important to you. But if you think this is a deal breaker, you have to be very tactful in telling that to your guy. Most guys with such a condition would be feeling very bad about it already. One wrong word from you could have a deep long lasting negative effect on his self esteem. I hope you would find a way to handle this situation without affecting his emotional well being or your own. Good luck.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (24 July 2012):
 I have to agree with Cerberus here. He doesn't have a medical condition. He has a small penis.
After all your research on this, what is it you've learned that makes you think a visit to the doctor is going to "cure" this?
The real question should be, does he experience sexual pleasure? Will you be able to pleasure him? Will you be okay with him just the way he is? Do you require a larger penis?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2012): OP why would he need to go to a doctor? I don't understand your reasoning here at all. You do understand how important a guys penis is to him don't you? There is no chance in hell if there is any issue with it that we'll just ignore it or not have tried to fix it. OP he has a tiny penis, I don't see your confusion here. Whatever the reasons for it, it's not something he can really change and it's not going to be a recent thing either OP.
I still don't get your reasoning behind the doctor thing, that's like you having A cup breasts and him telling you that you need to go see a doctor about them. Would be weird wouldn't it and it very much says "I think your tiny breasts are going to be a problem and you need to get them fixed."
You need to change your mindset here OP, you seem to be assuming that he has some kind of problem that he doesn't know about and you want to help him "fix" it. You have to think of this in the same way as you would a girl who is flat chested, you either accept that's the way he is or you don't but you certainly don't approach him like he's some kind of idiot that has a tiny dick and never thought to "fix" it, that wouldn't go down well at all.
I have a feeling he waited so long to let you have a go off it because he wanted you to judge him on him as a man and not his penis size. So you need to have a long think and ask yourself if this is going to become an issue for you, is penetration with sensation that important to you or can you be satisfied with manual and oral stimulation as your main source of sexual pleasure from him.
I really advise you to change your thinking here and I also think you need to come to your conclusions ASAP because if he's a nice guy then he doesn't deserve to be strung along while you figure out whether this is something you can live with only to turn around in a few months and say you can't do it.
Seriously OP figure out now whether a tiny penis is a deal breaker or not then talk to him about what happened that time, he said he wasn't himself so just ask him what he meant by that. Talk to him about it and if you're fine with his size then just reassure him about that. It would be a massive mistake to approach it the way you are thinking, you would not take it well if you were flat chested and he suggested you go see a doctor to fix them or that it must be a medical condition.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (24 July 2012):
OP this is going to test your tact and diplomacy but he needs to see a doc. I have just googled this and there are various treatments. Stress and fear can make a penis shrink remarkably, maybe it is meant to. Many
Work on getting him relaxed. Maybe you should try oral sex on each other, I always recommend 69 :) , and just see what he is capable of when erect. Good luck and just have fun playing doctor with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello Deagan. Thank you so much for your reply. I know for a fact he doesn't use steroids or anything he just has a very active lifestyle which keeps him fit. His muscles are defined but not over the top in anyway. Pretty much perfect skin as well, no marks and no back pain as far as I'm aware. Bug strong hands and feet to match his height. He's just a healthy person I guess. I think a doctor is probably the best option I just have to think about how I tell him. Thanks again.
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reader, Deagan +, writes (24 July 2012):
 Hi Sweetie. As a medical professional- here is the first thought that comes to mind:
Is he using steroids? Growth defects and shrinking of the male genitalia are common side effects.
You say he is very fit and very muscular... so it's something worth checking out.
I don't know what he looks like but look up side effects and see if you notice a trend- does he have a lot of body acne? Stretch marks? Leg, ankle swelling? Back pain? Back pain indicates kidney problems attributed to the steroid usage.
Or let's go a different route- consider Hypogonadism. Look into the symptoms for that. He just might not produce enough testosterone, it can be genetic. He's at the right age to be able to take hormone replacement therapy.
The best advice is if he hasn't already, he needs to see a doctor about this. There are so many diseases and conditions (often hormone associated) that can be affecting him.
In a caring, sincere way, have him see a doctor. Show your support.
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