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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:HelloI am inlove with my 9 months boyfriend, when we are together everything is so perfect, he treat me really well, but there are some things in this relationship that I don't know if they are normall or not. First, for him is very dificult to express his feelings, he only does it when he sees me upset or when he thinks that I believe that he doesn't care about me, but at the same time, he always try to make time to spend it with myself. He does always tell me how cute I look, and things like that. He is very affectionate physically talking, but not verbally. We normally see each other 3 times a week, sometimes 2 because we both have very tight schedules. I have a little bit of more free time than him, I have a great career and a very good job with strong finantial stability, I have my own car, and I support myself. On the other side my boyfriend has been in this country 10 years and hasn't been able to get his green card, which I understand because it took me 7 gets mine. So as a concecuence of that he has to work many jobs for less pay because again he doesn't have his green card, he is also going full time to college, so between these 2 things he almost doesn't have any free time, so the time that he has free he spend it with myself, which I really appretiate, because I know that he used to go out with his friends a lot when he was free, so now it's been like one month since he doesn't see his friends, they see each other once a month now when they used to go out 3 times a week. Also as you can see he is very bussy all the time, but sometimes he can spend 2 complete days without talked to me or text me, don't get me wrong, if I text him or call him he normally answer right away, and asked me about my day and everything.He has told me that he has never feel so good with anyone as he does with me, and that he has never meet anyone like me or has so much feelings for anyone like he does with me. He always tell me about all his problems, and when something nice happend to him he always come to me to tell me.The sex is also great, we have a lot of passion for each other. Even when our first 3 months we didn't have sex because I wanted to wait, I don't like to have sex with any guy that cross my way. Sometimes I get sensitive and I accused him that he only want me for sex, and he always reply "I don't want you just for sex, the sex with you is great, but if you don't want to do it that is fine with me, I can live with it, I just want to be with you"Also he has a very close female friend, which I know her, but this girl is the most ackward person, if we are in a bar and she is coming to meet me and my boyfriend, she always come and say hi to my boyfriend and ignores me, I am the one that have to tell her "hello, how are you?", she and my boyfriend are close, they know eachother since years ago, my boyfriend's friends are people without any professional ambitions, they are not career oriented and I always feel out of place when I am with them. But when I am with my boyfriend everything is perfect because we always talk about what we want professionally in our lifes, because we are pationate about that. Sorry that this is so long but do someone can give me any advice here? am I fooling myself thinking that my boyfriend loves me and he doesn't?
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reader, SammieG  +, writes (5 November 2008):
I know how you feel considering that my man is close to a lot of girls too... ive learned to live with it except for this one girl in particular. i dont know about your case, but i dont think you have enough information about this girl to draw any conclusions that something is going on between your man and her. If it really bothers you, talk about it to him and try to find out how close they really are. How often they see each other, how frequently they talk, etc. then you can draw better conclusions. but so far, with what youve said. i dont think you have to worry :)
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