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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for two months, so this valentines day was our first one. He got me nothing, all my friends were asking what I got as he should have put in an effort being the first one I felt so stupid telling them he got me nothing. Nows hes gotten me nothing for easter this isnt ok is it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012): This is so not good. I've had the same thing happen to me. No Christmas, valentines day, or Easter. I later found out that he just dated me because he was bored and never really cared or gave a thought about me. I was mad so I went to ask him if this was true. What did he say? Yea...
We never spoke again... Ever..
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 April 2012):
 I've never heard of Easter gifts anywhere I've lived- just chocolate eggs for the kids, that's all. So, unless it's an Australian tradition, I don't see why you'd expect one.
As for Valentine's day, you were together since maybe a week or two ! I don't think many people would make a big fuss about celebrating their love,..when it's still so much in the bud.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 April 2012):
 You were a very new couple when it was Valentine's day.
some folks don't give Easter gifts and even if they do you are only together 2 months... I'd not be too worried...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2012): yes it is perfectly ok that he didnt' get you anything for valentines or easter.
if you have only been together for 2 months, it's too soon to be expecting a valentines gift.
people don't give gifts during easter. it's just not done. Unless you're a small child then your parents or schoolteachers may give you an easter basket or easter chocolates.
why are you expecting gifts at every corner??
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (6 April 2012):
 If you're a new couple, then a Valentine's Day gift isn't expected. He doesn't know you all that well to go all out for that day. Sure he could've got you a generic card, flowers, or card...but that's too predictable. Also, maybe he forgot it was V-Day.
As far as Easter goes, are you wanting an Easter basket? Yeah, I stopped getting Easter baskets at 13. Generally, couples don't exchange gifts on Easter. It's holiday to get together with family for dinner, attend church, and watch the little ones hunt for Easter eggs. It's not like Christmas or Valentine's Day. If you're expecting a gift, then you're going to be VERY disappointed.
I would give your new relationship the benefit of the doubt..it's only a couple of months in. Now, if you're mad about not getting gifts then perhaps you're with the wrong guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2012): Easter isn't a holiday where gifts are exchanged in my family, so that wouldn't bother me. But Valentine's Day?? Yeah, I would have expected something/anything with it being the first one together.
I don't think his lack of a gift means he doesn't care for you, but it does show a certain way of "being" for him. I would learn to accept that he won't be doing the "little things" some women desire. He is how he is and he's not the type to give gifts.
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reader, Lucky786  +, writes (6 April 2012):
 I think it depends on the kind of person he is. My ex and I had been together 20 days when Valentine's day came round and he bought me a sapphire ring.
My present beau is totally the opposite he will buy me a birthday gift but that's about it. We both agree that Valentine's day is just a commercial gimmick so we don't bother.
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