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female
age
41-50,
*spilker
writes:Ok heres is my issue. My boyfriend is a very well liked person. He is always flirting with other girls and things like that. I know this is wrong but I have a password of his and I do use it to check up on him. But he is writing girls telling them that he is thinking about them and how sexy they are, etc. Basically it makes me feel like he is just using me. He says that he comes home to me every night which is true but it's a place to stay. We have been together for a 1 1/2 years. I know that I am probably beging paranoid but I don't know what to do. He gets mad at me when I bring up that it bothers me and tells me to stop being insecure. I have been screwed over so many times that I worry that he will cheat on me.
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reader, flyingbird  +, writes (24 July 2009):
I been there, don't put yourself down and don't even think about that he will change, he will never change, this is your life, you don't want to suffer these in your whole life, you still young, what happen when you get old, you will feel less confidence and suffer more from his flirt.
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (15 July 2009):
 If he is telling other girls that there sexy and that he is thinking about them than thats defiantly a red flag.Thats one of those if he hasn`t cheated on you yet he will signs.You can just leave him out right.(Probably the better choice but I don`t think your willing).Or you can try talking to him and explain your insecurities.And because he wont listen to option B we must go back to option A,or I guess that leaves you with option C. Cross your figures and pray.Regardless you need to force the issue or his flirting habits will only worsen into actual cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): hey im christina.
It sounds like he gets deffensive everytime you talk about it.So either there really isnt anything going on or hes doing something he knows hes not suppost to.
So my advice would be to keep talking to him about it
because talking about it now might be better than letting it slide.
Or do something to enhance your love life that way he wont be tempted to talk to other girls
[not that its not great now] but increase the love u kno =]
i wish you the best
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 Your bf is really pushing it too far when he is writing to other girls and calling them sexy.
he is trying to encourage other women towards him and it only takes one woman to say yes and he may cheat.
if he doesnt understand your feelings towards this then he sounds selfish.
it isnt about you being insecure if your man is flirting with other women, it suggests to me he is the one with the insecurity issues and needs other women's attention to keep him going.
think carefully if u want a lifetime of this behavior from him or respect yourself and walk away before he pushes the limit.
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): MOVE ON FROM HIM. Trust me been there done that! He will not change.
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