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*opelesslyromantic15
writes:My boyfriend is 20 years older to me, have been dating for a year and two months now, the first four-five months were amazing, we were in the lovey-dovey phase, then we got really busy with our lives, we still made time to meet each other, but we stop calling each other with our nicknames, and but we would have a great time together, lately for the past two months we haven't been able to meet at all, and we rarely even chat, i try my best to start a topic on which we could talk for hrs, but he hardly pays any attention to me anymore..I have been too depressed lately..
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2018): Hmmm.
Could he have been married and used you as a temporary play thing til he got bored, almost caught, or somebody else came along?
Looks like this one is done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2018): So, the relationship has run its course. He's not into it anymore. Perhaps it is time for you to move on. Let the old-geezer go, and enjoy being single and independent for awhile. Date now and then; and eventually you will find someone right for you. Someone who has time to invest in a relationship.
Some men shutoff emotion to force you to give-up on the relationship and leave in frustration. It saves them the trouble of breaking-up, dealing with the drama, and you will fault yourself. He comes-out with his hands clean, and you'll go storming-off. Instead, you should leave with your dignity intact and peacefully. He's got no balls!
You can't wish people into feeling for you. Once you detect a detachment, that is your cue to assess the relationship. Have a talk, and find-out if he's having an affair with someone else; or if he is just over having a relationship.
He's waiting for you to initiate that conversation. You can keep avoiding this conversation; until he just freezes you off like a wart.
My advice. You're young and have plenty of other opportunities ahead of you. Prepare to let go. No matter what he says.
Expect him to deliver a speech of how much he loves you. If he loved you, he'd continue to show it. He has nothing to say to you, and he's emotionally-unavailable. That's a bad sign.
The end of the honeymoon-phase only means you're not the newly-connected couple in-love you used to be, but your love has grown and matured. It doesn't mean he looses all interest in you. Yes, we do get caught-up in life and work, but we don't let that leave our partner and lover high and dry. You only do that when you want out.
Don't be depressed. Face this like an adult, not a brooding child. You're avoiding any conversation about where the relationship is going, or what it has come to. Meanwhile, the love-tap has been shutoff. Time to talk, my dear!
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reader, DancerGirl1984  +, writes (6 February 2018):
I'm sorry to tell you but he has checked out of the relationship. He doesn't have the heart to tell you it's over so hopes that the distance and silence would give you the sign that it's over.
Do not contact him and start to plan moving on with your life.
Good luck
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