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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months now and My boy friend still has 2 of his ex-girlfriends in his facebook and I told him its kinda weird and makes me uncomfortable. He keeps just saying that they were never bad people so he sees no reason to delete them but I just can't be comfortable with this especially because both of these women still have pictures up in the pages of them with my boyfriend from when they were with him. So I would think that be more the reason to get rid of them but he says If he deletes them then it may start drama and people will wonder why?. I keep saying why does it matter he says it doesn't but he just does not want the drama I think it just should not matter all together but the only solution we came up with is to maybe make a new facebook profile together that way if his ex-girlfirends really still want to be his friend they have to be mine also so I am just not sure what to do but I think it could be an okay idea. I guess it just aggravates me that his ex's possibly still want to be with him and keep up all these pictures of themselves with my boyfriend. What should I do? am I right to feel the way I do? Should he just get rid of them I would think this is the best idea?
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reader, Bubsy  +, writes (14 October 2017):
 Its ok to have exes on someones fb, provoding they DO NOT stalk him,be obsessed by them,posting sweet nothings (or personal questions and assumtions about your relationship) on his timeline to get his attention!!!Also hints and subliminal messages on his posts,nostalgic comments, love and like almost every single post and comment of his.... yea these are weird and suspitious acts by his exes!!!As well if they are inbox him quite often on messenger about random memes and pics and videos that once they both were into(it would be like they were trying to make him miss those moments and memories so they can rejindle their affair)All these would look sass to me ESPECIALLY when they are freaken texting or inboxing them at 4am Like WTF? Have some respect you homewreckers!!!Im going through that at the moment and asked him to delete them because they interfere with his personal relationship He wont do it cause they are “just friends”I asked him then,if i could have his fb password (if there is nothing there to hide). He refused.Just to show im not his priority and he wont compromise at allOh P.S. we been dating for 1 year and he never posted anything about our relationship on fb i.e. a picture of us or something similar at leastI find that secretive and weird,like hes not proud to show me off ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2011): I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months and I still have ex's on facebook, it doesn't mean anything. Deleting them would probably cause more hassle and maybe unwanted arguments.
I can see why you're jealous of them still having photos but it's his exs and not him, he chose you and that makes you lucky. I'm sorry you're feeling insecure about it but sooner or later you have to accept the fact you can't control it and at the end of the day isn't it j ust a social network site and nothing more?
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (3 August 2011):
Be careful, you are seeming insecure and needy - and this is an ugly emotion for a guy to see in a girl.
He said that they didn't do anything wrong, and he has a point, why should he delete every trace of his history, just to make you feel better?
If he goes ahead and deletes these girls, and they somehow find out it's because you're insecure, it's going to make you look really bad.
You should be proud of your boyfriend, and be glad that it is you two together now.
The problem is you think there must be some kind of meaning between either him or his ex's. The fact of the matter is that it probably doesn't mean anything. You really need to let this go, and just forget about it.
Don't set up a profile for both of you, that is just really worrying. You both are individuals, you are not the same person.
Concentrate on having good happy fun times in your relationship, and leave the past in the past. Let your relationship grow, the trust will build and you might even find that the ex's won't worry you any more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2011): I think you sound overly insecure, does he still have pictures of them up ?
He can't help the fact that their is still pictures of him and his exes up all he can do is untag himself.
I can kinda understand where your coming from but it all seems a bit ott to me that you will have him delete his account and set up one with you, its as if you have no trust in him at all, you can't monitor everything he does and if you feel that you have to then there is something seriously wrong in the relationship. Your bf is with you so stop stressing, they are exes for a reason as he said, they didnt part on bad terms so deleting them would just look childish and attract the spot light to you.
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