A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of 3 years doesnt turn me on! We are both virgins and want to wait until we are married to have sex.We do other things like oral sex and masturbation but the problem is i cant "come" when we fool around together through masturbation. I have no problem masturbating alone and coming but i just cant seem to when he's with me. I dont feel awkward with him and we do lots of fore play-i have to fake it.He is nice looking but i dont feel attracted to him like i 1st did and in order for me to get close to coming i have to close my eyes and pretend im messing around with somone else. He on the other hand has no problems coming!Is this normal or shall i finish with him?? We have a good relationship outside the bedroom but i cant help but think if i feel like this now imagine after we are married..what if the sex is no good??Help!!
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reader, \m/J.D\m/ +, writes (17 March 2009):
 Rite first off one huge mistake, YOU FAKE IT huni trust me on this one a guy aint ever going to learn how to please you if your giving him the wrong signals in the first place! And secondly if you kno how to make yourself cum why not take the rains and show him how its done? Watchin you pleasure yourself wont only turn him on summat chronic but your certain t orgasm too! And finally you cant base a sex life on masterabating alone, you neva kno just because hes not yet made you cum that way the sex may be mind blowing once it does happen, and you can always try new things once you are having sex, breaking up with someone over something so small in the grand schem of things is harsh as fuck put another way would you rather be with a twat who treats you like dirt that can make you cum or the best damn thing that has ever happened t you who treats you like royalty who dispite one downfall at least puts the effort in? Oh and about the thinking of other ppl during sex. . . Its not personally my cup of tea but ive heard of alot of ppl that do get turned on that way and it hasnt affected their relationships. I kno i rant on alot but i hope it helps :)
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