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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 1/2 years now. For the most part, it has been a long distance relationship, but we see each other every time we can and I am sure that he's faithful. The problem is that he doesn't seem to care much about my feelings. When we talk on the phone or computer and I'm upset, or sad, or I have a problem, he never wants to get involved and claims that I'm always overreacting, and then gets mad at me and stops talking. At first I thought I was overreacting and always ended up apologizing. But his behavior has been consisting and it makes me really sad that I really can't turn to him for emotional support! I mean, your boyfriend is supposed to care if you're sad, right? And when he sees me crying it's like nothing's wrong... I will admit, I'm a little depressed with how my life is going right now. And when he hears those words he immediately shuts off. I don't expect him to solve my problems, but just to be there for me when I need to talk or get things off my chest and give me a bit of support.I don't know what to do because we're planning to move in together and I really don't want to leave him! He's a really good guy, funny, loyal, committed and I just feel so good around him, except when it comes down to my feelings. I've tried talking to him about it, but it always ends up the same: he gets mad and I always have to be the first to talk and apologize because I was "overreacting". Any ideas of what I can do? Thanks!
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reader, paigeme142 +, writes (19 July 2011):
 Girl I am in the same boat you are! My boyfriend and I are 4 hours away from each other and are lucky if we see each other every month. And, like yours, mine hates when I get emotional. I honestly believe that they are just missing the compassion part of their brain when we are not right next to them. For them it just gets old hearing us whine and complain and after a while it all just blurs together and it drains them. Try talking to him and just being super happy, bubbly, and positive and I bet you anything not only will you feel better but he will be so happy to talk to you. If you find yourself still upset I would find a great girlfriend to help! They are not only good to vent to but also fun to just brag to about how awesome your guy is:) I hope this helps!
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