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*blondie1826
writes:Well 1st off we have only been official for two months, but it feels as if we have been together for over a year. The situation is he use to try to impress me and actually want to come see me and now it seems like a chore. After 2 weeks he told me he loved me...took me a little longer, but I realize I do really love him. Just now it seems like I'm always trying to remind him that I love him. And he never says I love you unless I say it first and it is starting to bother me. He never makes plans to see me I always have to ask to see him:( and he says everything is okay but it doesn't seem that way to me. He use to want to cuddle all the time now it's like I have to beg him....and I DO NOT want to leave him, because he doesn't treat me badly, he just doesn't seem as interested as he use to be. What can I do to make him realize this. I've talked to him multiple times about it and he doesn't seem to listen. And I don't want to ignore him and not see him because I love spending time with him and soon he'll be going back to the Marines and I won't get to see him and I don't want to spend my time playing mind games. I just want him to show me he cares:( I would greatly appreciate any advice.I want things to work out between me and him, very badly.
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reader, tblondie1826 +, writes (22 September 2010):
tblondie1826 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have tried talking with him and he claims he'll start trying harder, but he hasn't... and well I got mad at him yesterday and he hasn't been answering my texts and calls since and idk why. But I'm very paranoid and it's bugging me. I've always been dumped like out of no where. I did apologize for being over moody, but he knows I'm on my period. But we were cleaning the house he's moving into and I was using the toilet and I flushed it and it clogged, Idk even how it happened.... But anyway I asked him for help and he ignored me pretty much, so I said thank you and he sarcastically said your welcome...later he claims he didn't know I needed help. But I plunged the toilet then he told me to flush again and then water ended up all over the bathroom. And he does not have any towels...I had to clean it up with paper towels on my hands and knees...just because he would not come over to help me when I asked. And it really got to me. He walked by multiple times and did not bother to help. After that I didn't talk to him because I was really mad. I told him I don't want to fight but you act like you just don't care. He said I love you back when I said it before he left, but I still can't help but feel paranoid. And I shouldn't I'm not trying to be conceded but in this relationship it should be the other way around. If I could tell you everything about him.
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reader, Sim1983  +, writes (22 September 2010):
using u same as mine is.just hurts to much to admit
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): I had quite a similar situation to yours and i would love to tell you it will change but it wont. it sounds like your boyfriend fought and fought to get you and now he has settled down as he knows now he has you. this can be a hard thing to change. you need to be honest and just sit down and tell him you feel like he is pushing you away and you need to no were u stand. i no this is hard but it will only get harder if you dont. after you have spoke to him dont ask him to meet up wait until he asks you, and if he doesnt he obviously doesnt deserve you. and i no you really dont want to end this relationship but sometimes it takes a break up to realise how happy you can be.
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