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36-40,
*ovemeright11
writes:My boyfriend never gives me oral but then again he never asks me to give it to him. Most guys I have been with enjoy oral and may ask for it but he never does I usually try to surprise him with some oral but he sometimes does not even get off from it. I know i am pretty good, men in my past always wanted it so I know its not like i am doing something wrong. I have even asked my bf if I did something wrong he says no. He has also said he is not really sure what he likes this confuses me too. I try to wear sexy outfits and he wanted to sit and have a conversation with me about my day instead of have sex when I was ready for him to ravish me and take me cause i was wearing something sexy??? what is going on here and what can I do? again anytime i try to ask him for oral the first thing i hear him say is I don't like the way it taste and that kinda offends me cause he is referring to someone else in past not me and I usually say to him well she is not me and all vagina's are not alike you have never even tried it with me?. how can I get him to be more comfortable and maybe even have sex with me like any man would when it comes to outfits? He has said that alot of the time he feels detached from the world or what is right in front of him how do i get him to wake up?
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reader, weakSOB  +, writes (31 May 2011):
Im sorry to hear that you are suffering in this way.
really it all depends on the rest of your relationship.
If everything else is good between you than try and see what is holding him back from being more sexual with you.
Him saying that he id detached from the world sounds like he has some more serious issues;
how long have you been together? do you live together?
how many times a week do you have sex?
these are all questions that need answering before anyone can give you real advise.
Im a man that only gives oral to girls I love, care for greatly, or really attracted to. I would not give it to someone who im with just for sex or a one timer.
cheers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2011): I'd recommend that you download Dan Savages Pod-casts off ITunes. Dan talks a lot about being a Good, giving and game lover. The idea is that we all need to be willing (game) to give our lovers what they want. Sounds like your man is being selfish and unwilling to pleasure you in the way that you desire. Not good...
He needs to realize that you have needs and these needs are legitimate and real. Next time you can wake up, tell him that you're going to get a good licking today and offer him first choice. If he passes, someone else may step in and fulfill the need.
Seriously... you need to sit him down and talk to him, you HAVE to get your sex life back on track. This will NOT WORK long term.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (10 May 2011):
 Hi
What I get from your message is a guy that really respects women, he dont see you as some play thing, not all guys WILL like oral sex, its not because of how you taste, they just dont get off on it. Why do women expect all men to like this form of sexual activity? How would you feel if your partner wanted oral sex, and you really did not like it? Maybe he did have a really nasty experience the first time, and really dont want to go back there. I have no doubt that your clean, and healthy, and smell clean and healthy down below, but some people dont feel the need to go there if you know what I mean. If everything else is ok between you both, why rock the boat? in time he may change and decide to give it another try with you. But untill then give him a break, and dont pressure him, because it could make him back off.
I hope this has helped
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