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anonymous
writes:Hello my boyfriend tells me he isn't horny anymore like he used to and I feel like he isn't sexually attracted to me I try to turn him on but he tells me it's sensitive down there like it tickles and I don't know what to do. We seem to argue cause he won't try anything sexually or Romantically. Please help .
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2012): From where I'm sitting, that isn't the behavior a man who loves his girlfriend, displays...sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know he loves me he tells me everyday he just needs to show it more he does kiss me sometimes but he is usually tired from work and I try to wait for him to Make the first move otherwise he thinks I'm always after it and if your a couple shouldn't you be sexualAround each other ? . I think he wants to settle down as I'm 18 and he is 25 I do love him and want a future with him I just think he has had all of the fun with his previous girlfriends and is bored of it I want to spark it up again but don't know what to do ? .
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2012): Italians kiss EVERYONE on the cheek, its their way of a greeting, so basically he sees you just as a friend/or as no more than any other general person he sees.
Well this doesn't seem good, he is willing to let you go and have sex with another guy so long as he doesn't have to do the duty?
I'd say he's fallen out of love with you hun, and only sees you as a friend and not a girlfriend.
Its obvious he hasn't lost his sex drive due to some underlying problem, otherwise he wouldn't masturbate, so its you that he doesn't want to have sexual relations with I'm afraid...from my point of view.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think it's stress but he moans at me for asking for it he tells me that if I want it so much go find someone else then. He loves me but doesn't show it a lot he tells me cause he is Italian he kisses cheeks more than lips but i don't get any passionate kisses I try to make him do more romance but I know I can't have everything in a guy but i don't know what to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I know he does Masterbate sometimes but that's usually when he is in the bathroom other than that he doesn't but should I mention that to him cayse he doesn't know that I know he does it, he works a lot so is tired but doesn't make any effort with me.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (6 September 2012):
 That sexual energy is going somewhere. He could be caught in porn/masturbation, which would make things too sensitive. Or, he might be cheating, but lack of drive alone isn't enough to prove it. There better be other symptoms.
I agree with the doctor thing -- if he was previously horny, and it's dropped off now, it could be a symptom of being sick. Also, it could be stress, because being tired out, anxious, and worried does a number on the libido. Has he had bad news in his family, or is he forced to work overtime? Is he cramming for college?
Remember, that sexual energy is going somewhere. Maybe ask him to hold off masturbating before he sees you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2012): As far as I'm aware, things "Down there" are supposed to be generally more sensitive than most other areas of the body, and as long as its not painful, I don't see how that validates as a reason not to have sexual relations with his girlfriend.
You could try calling his bluff and say something like "Well if its that sensitive that its becoming a problem and preventing you from wanting sex with me, then I think its time to see a doctor", you might be surprised how fast he'll get back into the swing of things.
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