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writes:my younger sister slept with my boyfriend. he admitted it to me, she still hasn't, well she did but in a round about way but then quickly took it back when i asked her did she do it rather then " i know you did it, why?". when she found out he confessed to me, she called him screaming an dyelling while i was right there, i remained quiet. i spoke to my mother about it, she is very much in denial( well she will not admit it to me) they are closer then me and my mother are because she raised her, while i stayed with my grandparents so that my parents could finish school at a young age. we both have kid(s), ( i have one, she has 2) and she was pregnant with the 2nd child when it happened. he said he did it out of anger from me cheating on him, which i did,i was very vulnerable at the time because he had been cheating on me repeatedly, and when he got drunk he would come home telling me about it. so time came along, i met someone, which he knew from a few other people, and it happened. me and her fell out because i tried to warn my little sister about her new neighbors that were bad news and she insisted that they were her friends(shortly after the argument, they fell out)so being that i was not getting along with neither ine of them, he decided to go and seek revenge on me( i know it was so much that he was hurt because he got a dose of his medicine). they slept together more then 6 times, she gave him oral sex, my neice was being exposed to the man she was taught to call uncle, he moved in with her and they both were willing to move out of town to be together, when he broke to her that he was still in love with me and he wanted to be back with me. so we got back together, shortly after he admitted it. i had heard many many rumors but didnt believe that no matter how mad she was at me she would do this.she has not came to apologize, when they see each other, she curses him out( he promised to never tell no matter what), the last time they seen each other she told him she misses my friendship, and wants her sister back. i've made arrangements to get my neice so that our kids can still be in each others lives. that worked out. the bad part about it is that not only my sister but my mother truly knows the truth but she chooses to try and make me believe different, my cousin knew and was fine with it, also the same cousin almost slept with him during this same time period. i feel stupid as ever because i cut my sister off, but i'm still with him, i can't find the strength, tho i am very pretty and all. he has always been a good provider and before this was a good boyfriend, my whole family felt the same way. i wanted to tear my sisters head off but i relaxed and thought about it, now i just say forget her, i feel that even though he didnt have that much love for me she should have, is that the right attitude to have? oh by the way, yes he has cheated on me a lot, he has a baby on the way that he made during the sister time also,though we were broke up, all this happened in the 1st few months of our break up. i need to mend my heart, she wont admit it but i need closure, what to do? my heart is burning everyday being in his face, her not coming to me as a woman and apaologizing, my cousins in my face not knowing i know the low down of her, what to do?[Moderator's note. Please don't use majuscules again in your postings, we can't allow caps blocks.]
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2013): You are clearly codependent on a person who gets his kicks by ruining relationships between family members.Your sister was wrong, but she is blood and he is only water. I would initiate contact with her slowly but surely and do the opposite for him. Gradually begin detaching first emotionally and eventually physically cut off all contact with him. You are wasting your time thinking he will change. He can be replaced your sister cannot. However, I do suggest you and your sister get some counseling to resolve any hidden resentments that may be the cause for this big mess in the first place. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): girl hopefully by now u have left him or hopefully u aren't pregnant by him let's be honest ur just going 2 be bitter thinking is he still cheating on me. U need happiness in ur life not bitterness. U need a fresh new relationship w/a new guy. Start 2 date n value ur self & love ur self if u don't no one will. When dating guys if it takes a while 2 find mr. Perfect let it be, no sex so guys can take u serious then from there ull see how each guy is. because u come 1st then sex. If u feel horny be like no I'm worth it before getting use. Be strong its going 2 take a lot of ur part. & sometimes we want someone 2 hug us so we can feel love well find it in ur kid ull be impress 2 see how much love they have n be strong n say I'm going 2 be strong 4 me & 4 my child he needs me more cuz he is little. There is actually this places 4 womans that need help leaving there relationship like if u want 2 want 2 run back 2 him or look 4 him when u feel weak they will
help u so u won't. Its something like domestic violence abuse its a 1800 or 1888 # look it up online or ur area. say ur emotional abuse n I don't know if u will call it physical think of ur self don't feel bad 4 no one. No one will feel bad 4 u six times is 2 much n you know it specially coming from both. N tell them he has cheted on u a lot they will help n that ur doing it 4 ur self n child cuz they r smart kids r just listening 2 everything n it hurts them seeing there mom.
Don't trust ur sister w/ur mans. & don't make up excuses 4 ur boyfriend & if he love u the 1st time he slept w/her he should of realize its wrong n not slept w/her again. Don't make excuses 4 ur sister I don't care if she is ur young sis u think she cares no... As a real sister she should know her place & have dinity 4 her self & specially respect her older sister. She laughs behind u & in ur face cuz if she didn't would of never slept with ur boyfriend more then once or at all. N if she has apologize now she don't mean it don't be stupid don't buy it even if u would like to see her as ur lil sister u think she cares ur her sister not at all. She is a girl that says I'm perfect I'm not a whore she hides what she is n of anything. She only cares of who not u but her self. Forgive her w/ur heart but don't tell her so that way u won't have a lot of anger but u don't have 2 like her obviously she don't like u she's a fake stay away from her. And ur family have 2 understand how u feel & respect ur decisions if not stay away cuz u might not think so but u matter a lot girl. N if u are w/that guy still even tho u Shouldn't be, well now its ur way or the door its simple as that. whY because it was ur sister, yeah u cheated yeah he cheated back but it should never being w/ ur whore sister too so don't feel bad 4 him remember guys have less feelings then girls w/bitter selfish disrespectful bitches. & if I offend her don't feel bad cuz that's what she is a whore, slut, bitch etc...it doesn't matter who start it. if u do feel bad that's being dumb why cuz that's how selfish people see stuff in a whole diffrent level they laugh n think they can fooled anyone with there acting 2 be any personality they want there not sincere persons stay quite it 2 observe n focuse so wat if u are stareing be alert not sleeping. Try not 2 trust anyone right away. Write me back if u want 2 my name is jennifer. Hopefully atleast u got better fam then me. Best wishes we all deserve to be happy.
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reader, jen311z +, writes (30 November 2008):
It takes two to tango! My little sister also slept with my boyfriend of 9 years. I just now got the truth out of him and this happened in 06. honestly i dont know how to deal with the pain i feel, its something that will never go away! Everytime I see my sister I visualize her having sex with "my man" How can you look your boyfriend in the eyes everyday knowing he had the balls to commit the ultimate sin? A real human being wouldnt consider such a selfish act! For future reference ask yourself "If he could do something so low as to sleeping with your own flesh & blood, why would he EVER hesitate to with a total stranger?" I know how you feel & its not a good feeling so please reevaluate your choice to be with such a scum! You my friend deserve so much better. I know its hard moving on but when you dont look for someone is when you'll find mr. right......................
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reader, kdc  +, writes (5 June 2008):
im doing the same my husband cheated with my sister
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): Honey the first thing you need to do is to drop this so called boyfriend. He is not good for you. If you are pretty then there is no need to be with him as in time you will find someone who will appreciate you and not want to go sleep with relatives. Yoy need to make amends with your sister. Has this ever happened before? The two of you need to find self esteem. You need it to know that you are special and she needs it to find a man of her own and to get out of your shadow. Remember blood is thicker than water and if slept with her while she was pregnant with another man's baby, well that says alot.
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