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writes:I recently found out my boyfriend of six months was doing "stuff" with my best mate. I was devistated. But as he is away on holiday, it made it hard to get to the understanding behind it all. I told him it was over because i was so hurt and all of my other friends said I could do better. But I am unsure of whether I am ready to get over him, it seems like I need him to function because him being away has been the hardest time ever. So do i forget what he has done and move on, willing to get hurt like this again, or do I try and force myself to get over him and think about him everything day unknowing?? Thanks.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (13 August 2009):
 Maybe you need to look at WHY you think you can not function with out him. Is it just HIM you can do with out or is it the having a boyfriend.
What he did was serious betrayal. Your friend too. You really think you can ever trust him again enough to make it work? Can you forgive him? Can you forgive your best friend.
I'm not sure why you feel there is no other out there for you, possibly one that will treat you with respect.
I think you need to understand that YOU deserve better.
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reader, ohtheagony  +, writes (13 August 2009):
when he comes back i think you should talk to him about what happened. Its hard to forget someone you really like, trust me i know. ask him how much feelings does he have toward you and if he likes you as much as you like him. then try to work something out again and make him promise that he's not goin to do it again. as for your best friend, you definently need to talk to her because again shes your best friend and theres no reason whatsoever what she did and why she did it.
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reader, rosie-rouge +, writes (13 August 2009):
 Hey there,
I've been through the same last year, it wasn't nice and it hurt. Badly. Although my relationship wasn't for as long as 6 months, I feel I can still relate to you.
I think whenever you come out of a long relationship (like you have) or it's your first love (kinda like me) it will always hurt. But you have to move on and learn from it - that you cannot always trust guys the way you think you can without knowing them for ages.
When your ex-boyfriend comes back from his holiday, you should ask him about it and see what he has to say about it all.
If I were you, I wouldn't want to go through something like that again, because it really is just completely devistating. in my opinion, you should move on and find someone that will treat you FAR better. And quite frankly, you do deserve someone better. If they treat you like dirt, it isn't worth it.
The way I think is best to get over someone, is to spend more time with your friends. I don't know how long you currently spend with them and whether they are on holiday or not, but friends are usually the best cure. Go out on a shopping spree with a group of friends at the weekend or omething to try and get your mind of him. Usually when you are spending time with friends, all of your worries go away. And they might even be able to help you more than anyone on here because they know you and what your ex-boyfriend is like.
Good luck, I hope I helped,
Rosie-Rouge X
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