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writes: I am a 21yr old female whose been in a relationship for 3yrs this past August.I am currently pregnant with twins for my boyfriend.At the ending of the 1st yr we meet i went and got an abortion dispite what my boyfriend wanted (he wanted me to keep it).After doing so he broke up with me and cheated with a female i knew that same month.We eventually got back together 3 months after.In April or May of 2006 i cheated on him,he forgave me and we got back together again.He was aware i was pregnant since Sept 06 and we broke up in Oct.06 for various reasons,right now we are on dissicon making terms if we should try again.In doing so he admitted to sleep with the same girl recently about 2 weeks-3weeks ago,and having he in his house one night a week ago,but nothing was done.My question is knowing that im pregnant for him why would he do this to me again?Should I forgive him and try this out again?Or should I leave him alone because I do feel hurt and I really dont want it to happen again.
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reader, Terrie-Anne +, writes (31 October 2006):
My awnser is think of you're self and you're twins, you and them are all that matters i know you still have feelings for him but he cheated time and time again lose him true love can wait'
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reader, keysha  +, writes (30 October 2006):
 frist of all the both of you need to get it to gather because AID's is real you are putting your self and your baby's life at risk and on the other hand if the two of you are going to be togather then thats what needs to happen because now it sounds like the to of you want to play cat and mouse you are young you dont need any kids now it's alot of guys out there dont play your self with one person (I am not telling you to have sex with everbody)but get a feel of other guy to see who is right for you and let me tell you "A BABY IS NOT GOING TO KEEP HIM" men are dogs!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2006): Having children, especially twins, is a big deal, and personally I wouldn't go ahead with something as life changing as this unless i was 100% that i wanted it. For you even to come on here asking about it, proves that you aren't. Honey you've got one life, if this guy is cheating on you before the twins are even born, what will he be like when you're experiancing sleepless nights, dirty nappys, and all the other joys of having new babies.
Just a thought.
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reader, Fernikle +, writes (30 October 2006):
 Hello Flower. What a pickle! It seems to me that you have both got into an infidelity cycle. It needs breaking NOW. You can overcome this hurt, if you get the right support from your partner. You need to talk and find out if he is truly dedicated to you and the babies, or if he is scared of the commitment needed for LIFE from him. Yu still love him and I feel your hurt, I really do, but believe me, you can both get over this with forgiveness and remembering to continue to talk to each other. Especially through the tough times. Life is hard, but you both can get through this with true forgiveness and ultimately love. It is possible to forgive even if you can't forget, but time will heal the hurt - promise.
Good luck with everything and I hope I have been some help. Ultimately though, it is upto you.
Mwah X
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reader, Jo_905 +, writes (30 October 2006):
hiya, it seems as if you're both trying to get back at eachother and nothing really is being resolved. Seeking revenge isnt the answer and normally it doesn't help. Now that your pregnant you should think about what is right for you and your baby. Do you feel ready to accept him into your life even though he has had a previous record of cheating? Cheating does hurt and from what it seems, you dont want that to happen again. Discussing the issue thoroughly with him might be worthwhile but be straight to the point. Can you support our baby? Are you SURE you can stick to a commitment? if the response isn't fulfilling and he doesn't seem as if he can do any of the things you want him to then obviously he really isn't worth it. Alot of this most probably will be causeing you stress, which is very dangerous for the baby. When asking him or discusiing important issues about your future, do not resolve to arguing but straight things out carefully and be STRAIGHT TO THE POINT. Hopefully this has helped.
Jo_905
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