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writes: My boyfriend can't stay hard.The first time me and my boyfriend got intimate physically he avoided intercourse and satisfied me in other ways. However, after multiply attempts to have intercourse he eventually told me that he has a problem doing it.My boyfriend had been single for 10 years before he met me. His last relationship ended over his erectile dysfunction (and some other things he didn't tell me about which is understandable ). He told me that his confidence was shattered and he has trouble getting it back.He hasn't had a full erection at all! He goes hard but he goes soft when he tries to put it in.Don't get me wrong I don't believe it is me or that he doesn't find me attractive, just wish I could ease him somehow so he will get his drive back.I would like to have sex with my boyfriend but I don't want to push him too much, should I just give it time? I would like him to practice more but failing might lower his confidence more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2018): He should se a doctor asap. ED can be a symptom of a much serious condition (e.g. heart disease).He should get everything checked, hormones especially.Is he taking any meds, drugs or is he drinking, smoking? Is he under stress? He needs to learn how to deal with it, meditation can help.He should consider seeking therapy.I'm writing this from my (husband's) experience:He must exercise regularly and have a healthy weight (especially watch the waist!). My hubby has always been athletic so this was never an issue, but for many men it can be?He must eat healthy including animal protein and healthy fats (when he went vegan, the symptoms got worse, that's just he's experience, though). My hubby has naturally low good cholesterol and without it nothing can work well, so he needs to eat good fats like avocado, walnuts, olive oil... We don't eat grains and pseudo-grains or dairy products.We tried B vitamin complex, fish oil, zinc and got moderate results, what made all the difference was a new group of supplements for better circulation, Maca and especially Ashwagandha (any good brand will do). This will sound crazy, but we noticed that whenever he would have some homemade chicken or specially beef broth in the evening, he would have a normal, strong erection in the morning.Stay away from snake-oil pushers. They will sell you anything and promise miraculous results. Unless there's a clear mediacal problem he needs to address and the cause remains a mystery, nothing works, there are no quick solutions, except good hygiene, including all of the above + regular sleep. Btw, regardless of the caise he should adopt healthy habits because, ED can and almost always does get worse. Be patient and offer him support.
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reader, Garbo  +, writes (18 April 2018):
 His eeectile dysfunction will not go away on its own. As he ages, it will likely get worse. You giving him time will not change these. He is way overdue for a visit to a doctor. It has been 10 years, and he needs to get over that stigma and do something about it. The cause of ED can be numerous - low testosterone, too much estrogen, too much prolactin, not enough nitric oxide... or any combination of these. Nobody knows for sure until he is looked at.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (18 April 2018):
 As others have said, his No 1 port of call should be his doctor. Is he overweight? Could he have diabetes? Is he on any medication? Does he drink or smoke heavily? All these things can affect his ability to get and keep an erection.
Once all medical issues have been ruled out, then psychological issues can be investigated. If this hasn't "sorted itself out" after 10 years, then it really does need investigating. It won't be anything his doctor has not seen before, so he really needs to go.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (18 April 2018):
Tell him start lifting weights, it helps, along with eating healthy.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 April 2018):
 So this was an issue 10 years ago as well and he hasn't gone see a doctor?
There can be so many reasons why this happen, but if he doesn't KNOW the actual cause... it won't improve.
So I'd suggest he goes see his doctor and have a check up.
Some of the medical reasons for it are problematic ( like heart disease and diabetes) ALL good reasons to get a check up. The sooner he finds the ROOT of the problem the sooner he (with his doctor's help) can work on fixing it and whatever is causing it!
I don't think practicing will help, IF the issue is medical. So I'd definitely suggest he sees a doctor first, THEN you can work on what's next.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 April 2018):
 Has he went to the doctor about this? That should be his first step so he can have tests done. I am glad you are not seeing it as personal and he is able to talk to you about it, but he does need to get professional help.
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