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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi all,I met my boyfriend in college we are both studying the same course and in the same class. He is the sweetest guy ever and we were planning to get married until things started falling apart, when he came home to meet my parents during christmas. He didnt know i was from a very wealthy home and i didnt think it necessary to tell him. I just wanted a simple life at school. Now all he talks about is us being from different class and he thinks i wont respect him when we get married.Things even got alot worse with me topping my class and having a job from a multinational company, which i did on my own without influence.He did well on his own but he isnt happy that my performance exceeded his and he is still trying to get a job. Right now all he does is put me down ever instance he can get, he said he feels threatened. I really love him with all my heart, how can i make him see that all these doesnt matter and if i can i will give it all up to be with him?
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (20 June 2007):
 it isn't fair him puttin u down. but like he said to u he feels threated by u the fact that u have come from a lot of money which to him makes him think u can just go to daddy and ask for money or help i think he wants to be the one to bring in the money, its common in men they like to be the one who looks after the family not the other way round it can be sweet but it looks like it could be ruinin ur relationship i know he isn't listen but try and talk to him as it seems u both love eachother just money gets in the way goood luck xxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): Your boyfriend has an inferiority complex. This may be a problem that will recur throughout your relationship if he is not willing to do anything about it. Best to be honest and upfront - communication is the key.
You should never have to apologise for your achievements or for your background. Your boyfriend should be proud of you and of your achievements rather than be resentful. A relationship with him will not work in the long run if this does not change - something like this is fundamental and needs to be addressed.
Good luck!
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (20 June 2007):
 Putting you down isn't really fair of him. If he won't listen to you saying that you don't care about your background wealth and stuff then show him. Males like to feel the king in their own home, they have such a head of the pride thing and you finishing the top of your class and beating him to a top job has kind of hurt his ego I suspect. It's not a bad thing, and something he will have to get over if he wants things to work with you.
Good Luck!
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