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writes:My bf and I have been going out for a while now. We only see each once every two weeks, roughly, and he never texts/calls in between. I'm getting really depressed; I told him I'd understand that he's really busy and if we could only see each once a week/every two weeks...I don't want to demand too much of him timewise, but at the same time I can't help but feel like he's demanding a lot from me, expecting me to just deal with complete emotional neglect?Idk, am I wrong to be frustrated?
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reader, Moogie06  +, writes (19 September 2008):
Ouch. Sad to say I've also been there before. I had an ex with whom I never saw very much, as he was always buried away in labs at a different school. We went out for a year, but from the amount of time we spent together, we were hardly actually 'together' for more than maybe a couple of months at the very most.
It would seem he put his studies, friends, and family first before me. I tried to work around that by making sure that the few times I saw him I planned months in advance- a concert, an event, etc etc. 9 times out of 10, he would call five minutes before, apologize because of some other thing that popped up, and never showed. If I wanted to go see him, I'd take the bus to his school, but he would have gone home already, and forgot...etc etc.
So, my ex was a nice guy, but clearly not remotely ready for a relationship.
I suspect that is the same case with your guy, unfortunately. Your guy is probably a nice guy, that is why you stick around, but sometimes, boys are immature, and still don't know what they want yet. Or, thy are not ready for a girlfriend yet, and don't know how to handle it properly.
Oldersister is right- you make more contact with people at the convenience store at this point. Unless it's a LDR, there really should be no excuse at this day and age (w/ texts and phone calls) for zero contact. If he's not contacting you, he's not trying hard enough, or he simply doesn't see your relationship as high on his priority list.
I think you should, if you can, break it off with him, and see what else is out there. Who knows? You might find a guy who actually cares for you and thinks of you. Maybe in a few years, your current boyfriend might grow up a bit and realize what he did to you.
Cheers!
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reader, teencitizen92 +, writes (19 September 2008):
No your not wrong you need to tell him that you care about him alot and you want to see him more.
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