A
female
age
36-40,
*llieC.88
writes:Hi everyone,I have been dating a guy for about 4 months and it is pretty serious. We are planning on living together. The guy is sweet, caring, everything a girl can ask for. But the thing is i have kissed my ex-boyfriend and I'm debating if i should tell him. They both already dislike each other. If i spill the beans i might end up losing something great. But if i don't, what if one day i get really drunk and end up spilling the news then. What should i do?
View related questions:
drunk, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, ciamby  +, writes (13 June 2010):
why the hell should you tell him???
what good does that do???
so you slipped up everybody gets a few freebies as long as you dont make it a habbit
everyone says a relationship is based on truth the hell with that do you really think he is really going to forgive you???
and if he says he does do you really think he is going to trust you again???
trust me you dont want im to second guess your every move take it from a guys perspective lie your ass off :))
A
reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2010): It's wrong not telling him. Because as you said they really dislike each other so what if someday your ex gets really annoyed and decideds to tell him and he then does, do you think your boyfriend would really want to hear it from him rather than you. To be honest if I was in your place I would tell him the whole truth because if he loves you so
much then yous may be able to work through it but if he takes it bad and ends the relationship just maybe it wasn't supposed to be.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2010): Hey,I don't think you should tell your boyfriend because it will make the matters worse, you guys might argue and so. We dont want that,but now you know that you should try to avoid your ex. ( if i make sense ) cause you guys might have somthing going on..you might kiss again..
Stay with your boyfriend :)its best not to tell him. I did the same thing once, i didnt tell my boyfriend.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2010): Should you warn him? Are you serious?
Who do you love here? Who are you looking out for? Your bf or your ex?
To be honest you are so lucky he still wants to be with you. Most guys wouldn't. I sure as hell wouldn't.
I don't think you really love your bf. If you did you never wouldve kissed your ex. Why are you even still in contact with your ex frequently enough to be with him at all? You know your bf doesn't like it but you still do it.
You say the kiss made you realize you don't wanna be with him anymore. If you had to kiss him to find out then either you still do have feelings for him or don't respect your current bf enough to know that wasn't right.
And as for your bf I don't know why he wants to fight with your ex.
Your ex is a guy and he loses nothing by trying to kiss any girl he wants. Your bf should be more upset with you. It was up to you to decide whether the kiss happened or not.
He shouldn't be mad at your ex - he is just being a guy.
You need to seriously think about who you want to be with. The fact you kissed your ex at all and now want to warn him speaks volumes.
It seems like this guy is too good for you. Sorry. I'm just being honest. Try being a better girlfriend. I hope you realize what you have before you lose him.
Stop all contact with the ex if you value your relationship at all.
...............................
A
female
reader, AllieC.88 +, writes (3 February 2010):
AllieC.88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso i ended up telling him. He still wants to be together, but its just going to take him time to get through it. But he did say if he bumps into my ex-bf their will be a fight, should i warn him?
...............................
A
female
reader, Angzw  +, writes (3 February 2010):
Never kiss and tell. He can use it against you for months and even go on a cheating binge just to even up the score. He will never know unless you bleat it. If your ex says something its his jealous word against yours. If you had slept with your ex then perhaps you would owe him the truth but a kiss is no big deal.
...............................
A
female
reader, AllieC.88 +, writes (3 February 2010):
AllieC.88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondont get me wrong i really do want to tell him. But telling him means someone might get hurt. My ex and my current boyfriend recently already almost got in to a Fisk fight. But honestly the kiss made me realize that i dont want to be with my ex.
...............................
A
male
reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (3 February 2010):
 Best you tell him before someone else does.
He deserves to know, so that he can make his own decision about staying or going.
The fact you would kiss your ex says to me that you are not the one for him.
-Frank
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): my advice.
tell him as soon as you can i mean their might be serious consequences but if the guy is anything that u say he is im sure you guys can work it out.
besides if you were in his position would you rather him tell you right then or wait til he was wasted to tell you
but it sounds like you have a really great thing going and i hope you guys can work it out =]
hope i helped
sincerely
christina
...............................
|
