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writes:hi i have a problem me and my boyfriend broke up because he cheated on me with the girl he was texting he was minding my son last friday night while i went out and i met his brother and the thing is i really like him and have liked him for ages people were telling him i was with him but we denied it he is so sweet and so kind i never met any one like him in my life we know what we are doing is wrong but we cant help it what should i do? it would ruin everything if he was to find out
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2007): You might be getting close to your ex-boyfriend's brother but if were to have a relationship with him your ex will hate both you (for getting close to his brother behind his back) and his brother (for getting with his ex). Think about it the other way round. How would you feel if your ex got close to your sister (whether you have one or not i do not know)? You wouldn't like that would you? So don't do it to him. Also it might feel like revenge for him cheating on you with another girl but think about it, that girl wasn't your sister was it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2007): Technically, if you and your boyfriend have broken up, you no longer have any say-so in who you date, or who he dates. Because your relationship as bf-gf is ended (or supposed to be), but he still has, and will have for the next twenty years or so, an obligation to support yours and his child with money, time spent with his son or daughter and loving ther child. Which does NOT mean he has an obligation to continue a bf-gf relationship with you.NOW - here comes the "BUT": What I wrote above is how it would be in the "normal" course of events. BUT you now want to be involved with your ex's brother. Sounds as if you are involved, and if you have had sex with him, then you are cheating on your ex - if your ex is in fact still supposed to be your boyfriend right now. You are probably right in saying if your ex finds out it will ruin everything.Therefore, you either have to stop seeing your ex completely (except for child support) OR you have to stop seeing his brother, NOW. You CAN help it; truth is, you don't want to. So really, difficult as it is, there's no other practical choice. You need to be responsible about this and face whatever consequences there may be - UNLESS the father of your child would be abusive. THAT kind of behavior would not be acceptable toward you.
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