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anonymous
writes: I fear that my boyfriend and I are not connected sexually, ie, there is no intimacy between us. We have sex the same position every time, and i rarely have an orgasm. Also, he does not give me oral sex and does not kiss me. I perform oral sex on him. It has gotten to the point, where i do not have intercourse with him because I don't have orgasms. I have spoken to him about these issues, but, he only gets defensive. I need serious help.
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reader, candus +, writes (20 November 2010):
it sounds to me your boyfriend is selfish and is all about pleasing his self and it shouldnt be that way you need to sit down and talk to him about that issue or your relationship is going to go downhill because you not going nto be happy i know you said he gets defensive and thats because he know he wrong you need to tell him you are not getting satisfied and try something new explore you find out how to satisfy you instead of his self
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (20 November 2010):
If there is no sexual connection, there is no boyfriend and girlfriend. This is one of the reasons why I don't wait to have sex. From the sounds of it, it's not like you started off great and then had some glitches. Either he's lazy or he has no clue how to please a woman. It doesn't matter if he's a great guy outside of the bedroom (doesn't sound like it), the rule of the survival of the fittest applies here. If someone wants to call me judgmental, shallow and selfish, so be it. I am assertive and I like what I like, and I look out for my happiness.
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