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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I met this guy long time ago, at my previous job. He was my big boss and I was married. He's very smart guy and mostly talked to me direct boss or my senior. He seems angry when he looked at me but I didn't think much of it since I have my own problem in my marriage. I worked full-time, taking care my child and my unemployed husband whom mostly drunk. Before I left the company, he was suddenly very nice to me, whispering the question why I left, touching my shoulder and even gave me a quick kiss on my head before I can realize it. I keep contact with my direct colleague and boss (for network reason) and also because I miss my colleagues and send him happy new year e card. I contacted him maybe for 3 email/calls in a year. He made time to answer my email/talk in the phone. When I decided and asked my husband for a divorce, I have more contact with him. We had appointment ut I cancel it because I thought it's not appropriate since my divorce was not finalized. He said he understood and not angry at me. I was take the first move to contact him but he alwasy send the reply fast. If not mostly he falled asleep already or very busy.Now m divorce is finalized, I lived by myself and I thought it's to meet him as friend or whatever. We made appointment again. He wanted me to pick the date. The first date I choose was refused, the second one maybe he just try to be polite, he said ok but than informed me that he might not make it and will give me update. A day before the D-day, I asked him, and he was totally suprised and thought that we have not fixed the date yet and his sister is coming over to visit him. So I gave him two others date to choose and he sent me a message saturday morning at 2 o'clock in the morning asking me out next week and if possible to stay over at his city.On tuesday he send me another message that he was very sorry that forget the weekend is a quarter end and he has to work (and possibly on sunday). I check with my ex-colleague if they are busy, but they said not this week but probabl next week. My problem is I can not judge he's lying because with his position he has much more to arrange.I tested him with asking him to come over at my place for dinner on saturday after working but he said he's not certain about the time.After that I send a plain text asking him advice about work but he directly give me response. I really don't know if he try to reject me politely or if he really busy. I'm very confuse since most guy I know won't give their time to give you advice if they are not interested. Is he just being carefull since I heard he was also married before.Can you help?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (27 March 2008):
 I think his actions speak louder than his words here. He is enjoying flirting with you, but my guess is that he is involved with someone else and just can't have a date with you.
I would only contact him again on work related matters if I were you. Do not ask him on a date again, do not flirt with him, ignore any advances he might make. I think he is only playing with you.
Sorry if this is not what you wanted to hear, but do not make yourself vulnerable to him.
All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust want to put some info...
Well, we never meet since I left the company. All happened just by phone, email and sms.
So, that's why I wonder why all the trouble to asnwer my questions......
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