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anonymous
writes:Ok, a little back story to start everything off...I went out on this blind date last saturday. Ok, I agreed solely because im fairly open to try anything once. I sincerely believe that you should never knock something til you try it. Anyway, we met for dinner, upon meeting the guy he seemed level-headed and fairly likeable. Which was great considering that I was expecting some bridge troll with no personality whatsoever. As time passed this guy seemed to good to be true, we had loads in common and seemed to really hit it off. Here's the kicker, as we were leaving he invited me back to his place for futher talking over a cup of coffee. I thought 'why not' and followed him back to his place. Upon arrival we walked in and immediately he turned around, grabbed me by the behind and kissed me. I jerked away and I think my choice words were something like "What the HELL do you think your doing!". He them began yelling at me, saying that he only invited me back for SEX! Now, in my mind I honestly thought that he meant COFFEE! Nothing else, just harmless coffee and some small talk. He explained that he was only being a "nice guy" so he could bed me. Everything that he had told me was a complete lie and that he does this on a regular basis to all sorts of women. He also mentioned that I was the first female in months that had shot him down!! I was beyond angry and stormed off home and haven't seen nor spoken to him since. But Im still amazed at how honest he was. Just of of curiosity has anyone else (male/female) experienced something like this before? Whats your opinion on blind dates? Id love to hear what you have to say! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2007): You'd like to hear our thoughts. In my country there's an expression, "to put oneself in the wolf's mouth." You say in the beginning of your post that you did not know what to expect of him, so you never infered what kind of character he was, a bad wolf or not, never even questioned that I presume. Even if you had, you never go to the man's appartment after meeting him once only! Your being "fairly open" could have led to a disaster, and I'm not sure you acknowledge that, you're lucky he didn't go further to rape! Blind dates have to take place in neutral places, in populated places so you can ask for help if anything comes up. Yes, I experienced a few blind dates in my time. I'm particularly blessed! for one of them. But I was a cautious person in the start, goodness! This is a warning for all those who put their life to risk with on-line dates. Don't fall in love with "You've got mail," it's only a movie, Shop-Girl and NY152 are ficticious! The real world is more complex than virtually. I'm not saying this type of meetings is forbidden, our dearly net can bring you to special persons, but the issue must be treated with carefulness because it can be so deceiving! You're so lucky he hasn't taken things further. Don't put yourself in the wolf's mouth next time please... Some mistakes can have such an impact and can leave serious emotional scars. You learned your lesson, I hope.
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