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writes:I live with my boyfriend and he has a teenager. The teenager is so spoiled. I talk to my boyfriend about it. He thinks I am complaining about a lot of little issues. I feel like he does not care about my concerns and is use to how the teenager is. I have a hard time letting the little things go. I really think this teenager needs counseling and he has told the father. My boyfriend will not take him. Should I give it 6 months and move out if there are no changes? Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 August 2010):
 Why wait 6 months? The kid isn't going anywhere. If you can't stand him then you might as well leave now.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (20 August 2010):
 Bottom line. You're not this boy's parent. You never will be. It is not your place to dictate how he is raised. It really is as simple as that. Either let it go or move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): No you need to chill out, seriously. Come on has it really been that long since you were a teenager? They're crazy okay. Teenagers are nuts. (No offence to any teenagers reading this, but you are) We all were.
Hormones, puberty, inexperience, these all combine to make teenagers very hard to live with. I have a 16 year old sister, she's a lovely thoughtful person underneath the raging youth. She'll make a great adult but right now she's the most messed up inconsiderate little spoiled brat that thinks the world has to bend to her will, because she's a teenager.
At the end of the day this is his son, he comes with the package if you can't be patient and just wait until he grows up and normalizes into adulthood then you should go.
But I should warn you, even the nicest of teenagers are hell to live with, it's just their age. I mean some of the things I did when I was that age, if I was an adult doing them, I'd be an asylum now. Don't get caught up in the whole, "things were different/I was different when I was his age thing" you weren't, maybe your parents enforced stricter discipline but you were just as crazy.
Some of the things my sister, says, does and thinks are mind boggling to me. But that's her age, you never get used to it but you do have to tolerate it. That is of course if you want to, if this is a deal breaker for you then you should go. Otherwise you need to ignore his behaviour.
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reader, zebralove  +, writes (20 August 2010):
 Omg teenagers are just crazy by nature. let him be hes not your son enywais so I wouldnt give myself extra stresse for that. His son needs to experence life enywais so he can learn from it so meh..
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (20 August 2010):
I don't understand why you've made this your problem. He's not your kid. Are you planning on having kids with this man? I'm guessing not. So you want to leave him because you don't care for his teenage son? Lots of people don't care for teenage boys. Most turn out okay, and for the ones that don't, it's probably already too late.
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