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*aithful000lol
writes:Hi guys. Something has been annoying me, as a... potential threat. A girl gets feelings for my BF. She often posts on her Facebook page with heart broken words, and says missing "someone" for a few months till now, since me and my BF have been together. Last month I was so annoyed and I asked my BF about that, he said he no longer had feelings for that girl. Even in a post on my own page, he mentioned directly to the girl that there's no affair between him and her, but he also said that he hoped to stay friends with her. He rarely talked to her, mostly just the girl initially talked first, but just short conversations as he told. (Of course I set that post in privacy which just me, my BF, and the girl could see, no other ones).Last year, he got affection to the girl and intended to travel to visit her. But it didn't work out since the girl didn't want to move out of the country. Then he met me, after a while we have become such a couple till now. Seeing me and my BF as a couple, she got heart broken. My BF knew she's sad, and seems he still sometimes visits her page. For sure he gets love for me, but maybe still pays attention to her.Men often feel sorry for a poor love, from that they may fall in love again... What should I do now? My BF is going to meet me soon, we've planned to travel together for a while.
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reader, Faithful000lol +, writes (14 January 2013):
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (12 January 2013):
 She can only be a threat if B/F allows it.... How about posing this question to him? AND/BUT... if he sez: "Of course she's no threat"..... then take him at his word and let that be the end of the matter until/unless you find there is ANY evidence to the contrary....
We guys find it very demeaning, and marginalizing, IF we are starting to make a relationship with a "new" potential S/O... and SHE commences to indicate that "the Ex-" poses a potential threat to her/and their budding friendship/ relationship... We think: "Why do you think... I broke up with her???? ... and, do you think that I don't have brains enough to STAY broken up?????"
Good luck...
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