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writes:I am almost 26 and have been dating a man for 4 years. I bought a house and want to marry him. I know he is not ready yet. He is applying to Pharmacy school and wants me to move with him. I don't want to give up my good job or my house for someone who doesn't know if he wants to marry me. Plus, I have been attracted to another man for a year now and recently he told me he has feelings for me and I can't stop thinking about him. I love my boyfriend he is a great man but I am so confused. Help me, I'm a mess. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007): It is normal to feel confused about this, but first thing first. Self preservation is number one. If you cant establish your self and offer something to someone else, then what kind of standard are you setting for you? It's not about material objects, but it is surely about goals and priority. You have worked hard for what you got. Even though your in love, or think you love him. Don't give it all up especially when you have feelings for another man. If you really loved him and wanted to get married, you wouldn't even be on this site asking questions. When it's right it's right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2007): I think that you shouldn't move with your boyfriend. After all you are looking for marriage, have a good job and a house. Why give that up for your boyfriend, especially considering you want marriage while he doesn't plus you've met another man who you're interested in. I think that you should dump your boyfriend and go out with the other man who you are attracted to, especially seeing as he likes you too. If you move with your boyfriend you will regret it.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (1 February 2007):
 i think it will be irresponsible of you to give up everything you have worked hard for including your job for your bf who is going to school, how are you going to survive? the things you said seems to me you are not even sure if this rship will ever work out. you are doubtful and already eyeing another lad on the side which is not a good mix considering the choice you need to make between your bf, house and job. what u need to do right now is evaluate yourself ask yourself what you really need out of life and if any of this man can help you achieve that. your bf is afraid of commitment the other you hardly know so its upto you and here lies a risk you have to take. so choose wisely based on where your happiness lies.
jovial
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