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writes:lately my bf (of almost a year) and i have been joking around about sex we usually do foreplay and we both orgasm. were both virgins and i think he wants to take the next step so do i but im afraid its gonna hurt to muchh!! he says he'll be gentle but... i heard it will still hurt. how long will the pain last? and will i feel any pleasure the first time? i love him soo much and want him to feel good we've got protection and i feel im ready just unsure about those questions. plzz and thank you!!!
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reader, sophiethestar  +, writes (22 December 2008):
 To me it sounds like you're not ready. If you are ready you will not care about the pain that's going to be there. The amount of pain varies from person to person, but the chances are it will hurt even if it's only a tiny bit. If your boyfriend is angry or threatens to leave you if you don't have sex then he's not the one for you. You probably won't feel any pleasure physically the first time, but if you really love your boyfriend and feel totally comfortable giving him your body, emotionally it will feel amazing. Good luck and have fun. x
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reader, xxidkxx  +, writes (15 December 2008):
 hey, your both virgins. so sadly to say the pains probaly not going to be that bad, because its probably not going to last that long. and, this is comming from a girl who just had sex, and we had about 30 condoms. and didnt use any i mean ZERO literaly, we got into the moment, and we just did it.. stupidly. i though i was prego, and after we were done and everything we were talking about it and we BOTH cryed for about 2 hours, talking about what we were ganna do and everything. i have never been more scared in my life. so i just wanna say use it, its not even worth it. im 100% not prego. but i was so lucky it was a very little change that i wasnt and lucky i wasnt..
i am only 15, and alot of people on here are telling you to wait. and im not saying to do it.. but if you and your boyfriend are ready for this then its up to you BOTH on what you do.
i know how you feel about wanting to make him happy, but it takes the both of you, and i wanna make my boyfriend happy too. but i didnt do it for him, i did it because i wanted to too.
good luck,
and stay in contact with me!
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reader, Bibby  +, writes (10 December 2008):
well if u are ready to u can do it but b sure of protectives. make sure u are not succoming to it just to please ur boyfrend. let ur mind b pleased with ur decision.............. all th best
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCravee?!?!? D: im okayy with that if the pain goes away i heard it can be amazing :] butt.... i alredy broke my hymen or whatever you call it from cheerleading.... so will it hurt less right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2008): It does hurt alittle the first time, but then it is so amazing when you make love to someone you really love!! good luck!
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reader, daydreamer124 +, writes (10 December 2008):
ok, i'm still a virgin. but i did alot of other things. and i was close to loosing it twice. but i said no. i didn't really think about it, and i didn't want to loose it unless i was 100% sure i wanted to loose it, you know?
obviously, you sound sure that your ready to loose it. just make sure you thought of everything that will happen after you loose it. like, if he would break up with you, would you regret loosing it to him, or feel hurt? not saying that he would!!! don't get me wrong. I'm just asking so you can dubble check that your ready. and for a lot of people, it's not a big deal. just giving you my opinion ;)
ANYWAYS... it depends. my friends who lost it told me so many different things. for example, if your curvyish, i heard it hurts less. and if you got fingered several times before and got your cherry popped too, i think it makes it a little more open :/. My cusin said it didn't hurt that bad, and my friend said she it didn't hurt at all. but they also said it hurts sometimes after they lost it and do it more often, only for a little while though. From everyone i heard, it's not torture, but it does hurt, but it's bearable. At least from what my friends say :/
I hope this helps.
o yeah, once you do it, your probably going to crave it. just giving you a heads up. ;)
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