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writes:my bf thinks i lied and cheated on him, when i didn't i dont know. what i should do? i love him soo much he also will get mad at me if i dont answer him right away. i keep telling him i didnt cheat but he keeps saying i did from an email that he says i sent him i really need help now because i tried alot of things Reply to this Question
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reader, Toria +, writes (22 September 2006):
 You need to talk to him, ask him what things make him feel you have cheated and you can confirm and reasure on each situation, you need to make it clear to your boyfriend that you love him and want to be with him and would never do anything to hurt him in any way, you also need to tell him how all these accusations are making you feel and how these accustions are now the problem in your relationship over something you've not done and that you would hate to lose him over simple misunderstandings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2006): Right now your boyfriend is controlling you, emotionally. He's letting his insecurity, paranoia and jealously consume him and this is leading to upsetting and hurting you.
It's very important that you show strength with your boyfriend. You need to sit down and have a proper talk about this. Ask him what is making him think you cheated on him. You can then correct any misinformation he has about you, reaffirm how much you care about him AND THEN tell him that if the accusations continue it will mean the end of your relationship. Stress that you do not want to do this, because you really do care about him, but that you should not be expected to put up with his paranoia and insecurity.
Again, I say you must really be firm and strong with him about this. If you are not, he will only go on to upset you more.
You should also consider the possibility that he has been unfaithful to you. Has any thing happened since the accusations happened where he could have done something? I don't want to put thoughts in to your head, but unless you can see reasons for why he is acting the way he is, another explanation is that he is infact a cheating partner and is dealing with the guilt by making you feel bad. It's how some cheaters deal with their mistakes.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do - but remember - don't stand for accusations that you KNOW are untrue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2006): hello baby dear, if you already tried hard enough to say to your bf that you did not cheat him and still he dont believe you' why you have to suffer on that??? its not your problem anymore!its him'' its inside of him' you love him yes' but if he always doing that to you and its already affecting you and your emotion c'mon get out for a while' let him think that he is already hurting your feelings. give a little space for your self my dear sis'' good luck XXX gladyz....
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