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writes: a dream is really playing on my mind. Right now i am very happy in a relationship of 3yrs - and my partner has recently proposed and everything is wonderful. My ex boyfriend of almost 5 years left for someone else 3 and 1/2 yrs ago, I am over him and I have been for a long time,I love my partner and I cant wait to marry him. The night before last, I had a very disturbing dream about my ex - nothing intimate or sexual at all - just all rather emotional (I dreamt he'd had a family death and had turned to me for support and in the dream we were very close) And now it keeps playing on my mind. I smelt this smell the day after which reminded me of the way he used to smell and it brought the dream right back to me and I cant get it out of my head now. I thought maybe it was my subconsious getting rid of my past forever before i get married? I really dont know. any ideas what this could mean?
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (5 January 2007):
 Hi dear,
Your ex is always going to be part of your past and will be in your thoughts sometimes. It probably played in mind and subconscious becos of your plan to finally move on and u wonder deep down how he is. what wouldnt be ok is if u dwell on this aspect/dream of your past life when u are in the stage of moving on. I know u say u are over him which i believe but then u shouldnt let the dream worry.The past is a past for a reason. Try not to look backwards at all becos if u do then u can never see forwards to know where to turn and can end up in the wrong path.
My advise will be if at all "he" does contact you(try not to contact him) and he is in need for support be there for him as a friend only. Dont compromise your new relationship for one that didnt even end well.
Take care dear and i hope this helps abit.
Goodluck
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (5 January 2007):
 i agree this is your subconcious mind playing tricks on you, maybe is just some unresolved feelings you still had, but not to worry it was just a dream, also try to find it in your heart to forgive yourself maybe u blamed yourself when your ex left or u asked yourself why so many times before u accepted the situation, it might be cold feet regarding yuor engagement, or nothing at all.
focus on what makes you happy and make the most of it. if your dream or nightmare does come true well it will be just a tragedy but u will be able to deal with it anyway you can and fortunately you were prepared for the event.
so cheer up and enjoy your man
good luck
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