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writes:i woke up this morning and my boyfriend has left me.we had a big argument last night and i said things i didnt mean. He wanted to sort things out and said he didnt mean the things he said but i just went to bed. I've just got up and hes gone. He's even left his mobile phone so i cant ring him and say sorry.i think hes gone to his mums house but i dont get on with her, so i cant call. We have argued before and hes always gone off to his mums but ive always called him and he's come back. i feel so lost without him i dont know what I'd do without him . I have 6 children and one is only 5 weeks old. This is a nightmare. can anyone give me any advise. I have no one else i can talk to Reply to this Question
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reader, Tine +, writes (4 May 2009):
 i think you should just call him and tell him to come home. You obviously love him very much and have not said things you didnt mean, only he was the one to say sorry. once he's home you both need to talk it through and compromise. If you're saying that he's not giving you a break you need then agree with him that for a few hours on one day that he would babysit and let you have some free time to yourself, and you the same to him. Its important when you have kids to have sometime to yourself, even if it is only an hour or so.when he agrees to come home decide on what you want to say and both agree before beginning the conversation that there are to be no raised voices so you can have a decent conversation without it erupting into a full argument again. maybe then both your problems will be shared and maybe then you can work out a solution to resolve them
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): thanks for the reply 2 of my kids are his we have been together for 2 years it was just a stupid argument that got out of hand he he wanted to watch wrestling it was 3 hours long so me and the kids made some models after he said i could have an hour to myself to get a shower and stuff but the kids were being naughty and he started shouting i went down and it started from there like me saying hes selfish not letting me have a break etc.I told him lots of things that wernt true said i didnt love him etc then he got angry and said stuff too, later he said he was sorry and didnt mean it i said you did and said i wanted him out and went to bed he was gone when i got up i feel like such an idiot i didnt mean any of it i love him so much , we hardly ever argue but have had 3 bad arguments since being together and he always leaves and goes to his mums i always call his mobile and tell him i love him and want him back but hes not even taken his phone this time.he did call from the train station this morning from a pay phone but i was still in bed .
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): Who said what and to whom? I'd need to know how big an argument it was before offering any suggestions. Big golden rule here - never go to sleep on top of an argument. It's far more enjoyable kissing and making up. Come morning it's generally too late.
Just wondering - is he the father of all six?
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