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writes: My boyfiend is in town because his brother will be having a child, so he drove all the way to be here when the child is born.We've been going out for 1year-6 months, long distance as he lives basically one days drive away. our relationship is a secret as we are gay and our families don't know and when we do see each other in public we act like two normal hetros having a friendly get together. Now that he is in the same town with this brothers kid still going to be born I find myself almost having to make an appointment to see him, he is very busy with mates, and fam stuff, and now i come dead last. is that fair. im nagging for us to meet and he answers cant talk very busy let you know.An i wasting my time? When we chat i tell him that i don't like it he apologises and says that it wont happen and now im on the waiting list AGAIN almost like the dirty secret that no one knows. What do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): You have quite a long-standing relationship. By now I feel you should play a pretty full part in eachother's lives - family and all. Coming out takes an incredible amount of bravery, but how can a relationship last - let alone develop- in secrecy? If you truly love eachother - go for it 110%! Souns like you are doing all the worrying and running - is your relationship too one sided? Very best of luck!
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reader, shania  +, writes (20 April 2006):
 Well he probably is busy with family and stuff,and if he hasn't seen them for a while then he probably has alot of catching up to do.Saying that though,he should let you know when you two can meet up again...rather then,keeping you waiting.If after a while he still doesn't get a chance to see you then it sounds like he is fobbing you off.Because...at the end of the day,you are his boyfriend and you deserve some consideration.Maybe the distance is a bit of a strain to keep this relationship going? Ask him outright....on what he wants? At the moment,you two have kept it secret,so maybe he is too scared to see you...in case he gets caught...trouble is,that is stressful in its self.Still that is down to you two,just dont wait around for him to make his mind up.Good luck.
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