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writes:Hi Im wondering if anyone has any advice My bf and i have been going out for about 9 months A few months ago he moved closer to me because of workIm very attached to him He is my first 'proper' bf (im in my 20s, hes in his 30s) He was with someone b4 me and has kidsNext week he is going away for a week to see his kids He doesnt get to see them a lot so im happy he is gonna get to see themThing is i suffer with panick attacks The start when i feel unassured and worried about my bf FOr example i know this may sound silly but if i text him and hear nothing back i can really freak out and begin to think he has gone off me I end up crying and feel like i cant breath Or if his phones turned off i panick too Or even if he doesnt call me nice names in his texts (babe, sexy)Its just coz i cant see him I do trust him but have trouble controling these attacksNow im wondering how on earth im gonna cope not seeing him for a week In the summer he will be away for longer than that and im already worrying about that When my phone bleeps and its him its the most amazing sence of releifI just dont know what to do With the thought of next week i just wanna cry I hate being like this
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007): You need to get a gip love… (I’m mean that in a nice way!!) You can’t keep doing this to yourself. The way you need to look at it is… if he’s going to cheat… he will!! It doesn’t matter if he’s down the street or a million miles away! You just have to trust him!!
Panic Attacks happen when your worrying (which you are) you need to stop and start to enjoy your relationship… your boyfriend could get tired of you reacting this way to messages and his phone being switched off (this could push him away!!
When he’s gone don’t worry about being by yourself… go out with friends and enjoy yourself.
Take Care
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reader, cd206 +, writes (5 April 2007):
 If he will be away longer in the summer then see this one as a practise run. You can do it. I suffer with panic attacks myself and it seems to me the best way to get through them is to sit down and breathe deeply and tell yourself there's nothing to worry about it which you obviously know deep down. Focus on how great it is for your boyfriend and for his kids to see each other. If you can convince yourself mentally that the weekend is about them and not about you then you'll probably be fine. The trick with panic attacks I've found is to put a different spin on the worry and acknowledge it but don't overthink it.
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