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writes:I started dating an ex boyfriend for the third time last week, I haven't seen him at all this week with me being at college and him not, and when I arranged to meet him he never came and saw me. I have a friend thats really close to him and she and him are always together, but I'm 100% positive there's nothing going on between them, or at least I hope there's not. I feel really distant with my boyfriend as he doesnt really talk to me.I dunno what I should do as I'm afraid of what I might say might upset him. =/ Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 January 2008):
 Call him on the phone to talk to him.As long as you don't criticize him , any topics would be OK. If you care for him , you will call him up.Then you will know where he stands.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (12 January 2008):
 I don't know the situation as well as you do but sounds to me like this isn't really going anywhere.
"I started dating an ex boyfriend for the third time last week, I haven't seen him at all this week with me being at college and him not, and when I arranged to meet him he never came and saw me"
Perhaps there's good reason why he was your EX?
If he didn't show then he's not into you, unless of course he has bloody good reason, like an accident or an emergency of some sort and even then he should want to make it up to you.
"I have a friend thats really close to him and she and him are always together, but I'm 100% positive there's nothing going on between them, or at least I hope there's not"
Well doesn't sound to me like you're 100% POSITIVE then does it. It would be a lame thing to do if your friend is indeed seeing him behind your back. But I wouldn't go accusing anyone of anything without knowing exactly what's going on.
"I feel really distant with my boyfriend as he doesnt really talk to me. I dunno what I should do as I'm afraid of what I might say might upset him"
You two don't sound close at all, judging by your post and this is all we got to go on, and I think you need to stand up for yourself.
You say you're "afraid of what I might say might upset him". WHat about YOU? What about YOUR feelings? WHat about the time he stood YOU up?
YOU BOTH NEED TO TALK AND YOU NEED TO TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL. JUST TELL HIM.
If it doesn't work out, you're better off without him. HOw can you be with someone who you can't talk to openly and honestly about YOUR feelings?
If it doesn't change then you're better off out of it and with someone else in my opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): babe- he stood you up! you are worth more than that
unless he gives u a perfectly good reason without you even having to ask for one
dump him move on whether hes going out with your mate or not
gd luck!
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