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writes: Ok.. here goes. My boyfriend and i have been together for a year. We do reside in the same house. I have a couple issues I am battling with: First, he has not told me he loves me back when I have said I love you. what does this mean? Second, he is with me all the time so I have no reason to believe he is physically cheating on me, however he remains in contact with the majority of the girls he has messed with. recently I discovered he was requesting unappropriate pictures of one of the girls? Should I ask him to leave?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2006): This man is pathetic.His exes should be long gone out of his life and his number one prioprity should be you.If you love him which sounds like you do and if he loves you then he will stop talking to his exes and move on but if he refuses tell him to pack up and go.I know it may be heartache for you now but think if you have been together years then you will be broken hearted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2006): Why do you put up with this, because you love him or you have got used to him being in your life!!?? If you two want to be together he will ditch the pornography side, the ex es should have gone long ago. You have let it slide until now. Give him an ultimatum, it's them or you. If he chooses them then run (don't walk), this one isn't worth being with someone as good as you. Get rid. Make a better life and future for yourself away from all this. It will never get better but it will make you ill, believe me i have been there. Take care and i hope it all works out for the better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2006): Was living with a guy who didn't say, or show, that he loved you something you ever wanted?
Or a guy who is still sexually pursuing his ex's whilst living with you?
It sounds to me like no one would want this kind of person in their life. Do you?
I agree with everything Malyce has said. Ask yourself why you are putting up with this. Because you love him? What must he do for you to have a consequence? "Physically" cheat? Or will you still love him? Of course you will. People don't just stop loving someone when that person does something to hurt them. But you must be strong and see when the love you feel for someone is actually hurting you. I think this relationship is hurting you; and you can either try and fix these things; or end the relationship and move on. You must do something and I am sure the right decision will come to you, good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2006): Are you wanting to leave it? If he is always with you; how is he able to ask for inappropriate pictures of the opposite sex? He that brazen to do so in front of you? If so...he has little to NO respect for you as a woman and I say dump the loser.
If you are one of those women who cannot handle or deal with pornography...get out.
That is exactly what this is. Also, it is dishonest and is cheating...why stay?
I say address this matter once you have decided if you want to stay and make it work and if this is the case...lay down some ground rules PLEASE.
Like, no more internet for two months or you have to log him on and sit and read a book. Sounds a bit harsh but how else to support someone who is coming off of an addiction?
No lying, no cheating, no pornography, no contact with Ex es if they help him with his pornography.
Counselling.
In the end, you decide Babe.
Best of Wishes.
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