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writes:I'm in a long term relationship and very happy. The only problem is my past. I've been with a lot of guys, I used to have very low self-esteem and was constantly going from guy to guy trying to be happy. Unfortunately a lot of these guys are at the same uni as me or go to the same bars/clubs that me and my boyfriend like to go to. My boyfriend knows how many people I've slept with and it upsets him a lot, he loves me so much and feels very protective of me and hates to think I've got myself into these situations, which sometimes involved cheating. He's had just as many partners but its different for a guy, and he was picky, all his exes are beautiful, I just went with whoever paid me attention. Sometimes he's paranoid that I'm still that person, but I'm not, I'm the most loyal girlfriend and love him so much. I'm going crazy thinking that if we go out we're going to bump into one of them and I'm going to have to point them out and my boyfriend will get wound up. Its not just that they're exes, its just that its such an embarrassing thing to have to point out 'by the way I've slept with that really ugly loser over there'. A month ago I spotted one of them in the same club as us, but they didn't come up to me so I didn't say anything. I feel really guilty for not mentioning if there is an ex there, like I'm lying. My boyfriend hates liars. I would mention it but it seems so insignificant, why would I want to ruin our night out? If he knew I hadn't mentioned it he'd get so angry with me, but it just doesn't seem worth it. I just want my last year at uni to hurry up and end so we can move away and start afresh where I don't feel anxious about bumping into exes anymore.
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (13 December 2008):
 You don't need to go crazy.. !! We live in present, don't we..? A guy who is So concerned about your Past has no right to be a part of your Present.. !!
If i were to be ur BF, I would accept your Past and ask everybody else to Shut Up and see who you bump into.. ;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008): Hi
Your past belongs in the past...keep mush shut...and enjoy the now! good luck...p.s we all have beer goggles sometimes.
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