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writes:my bf drives me crazy with his alarms in the morning - he sets them 40 minutes before i wake up for work on two different devices - each device goes off once every minute for forty minutes so 80 annoying alarms!!! i wake up in a bad mood as i have to nudge him to turn them all off!! i told him but he refuses to change it! How can I get him to stop this? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 April 2017):
 I like to snooze in the morning and set a few alarms, but 80 alarms is seriously OTT. Can he not have four alarms one every ten minutes?
If he is willing to change this habit then yes on his days off set alarms beside him the EXACT same or even an hour early, maybe he will get how annoying it is.
If this doesn't work and he won't compromise with you then maybe get some earplugs? Or sleep in separate rooms the nights he needs to work.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (7 April 2017):
 Stop sleeping over. Stop having him sleep over. If he refuses to change it then I'd take that as him not being a very considerate person, and being incredibly selfish, to be honest. Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who always puts themselves first, no matter how much discomfort they put others through while doing so?
I'd end the relationship, to be honest. If it was me, and I tried to talk to him about it, and he simply point blank refused to do ANY compromises. Because that says all I need to know about him as a person, and that's not the kind of person I want to be involved with. Im a very giving partner who prioritizes my partner, and gives of myself in both time and energy, and always looking for how to make my relationship better and take care of my partner. It is a deal breaker for me if Im the only one giving, while the other is selfish and self centered and only takes.
Just tell him to not sleep over any longer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2017): People are so funny about alarms. But it's about compromising. You need to get him to really listen and understand or start switching off his alarm or waking him up on his days off until he is willing to adjust. My boyfriend used to have the radio alarm go off, and it gets louder and louder and louder and it makes me want to throw it at his head. AND he'd have a beep beep beep alarm go off every four minutes for half an hour.I wake up after one ten minute snooze and I wake up to a soft lullaby song as I'm wuch a light sleeper and get really angry if jolted awake. OUR compromise is that he switches the radio alarm off and back on at a very low volume and he gets up within 15 minutes of his snoozing beep alarm. Just as an example - so you can see that compromise does happen and does work. He still wakes me up with his alarms but they aren't as infuriating so I don't wake up livid before my day has even started. Could you suggest a compromise similar to this? It's a good test of ability to care about each other and know when something by is important.If he isn't willing to make amendments on something so little, how will he deal with bigger issues?
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reader, DancerGirl1984 +, writes (7 April 2017):
You can either smash those bloody devices or tell him to buy a fitbit. It has an alarm system and vibrates on his wrist when he needs to wake up. It's silent and he is the only one that feels it. Plus it helps track your steps everyday so he benefits alot from it:)
If he doesn't consider your frustration then I'm afraid he is putting his life at risk. Risk of you strangling him as he sleeps hahaha.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (7 April 2017):
 I agree with Honeypie! My husband is also one of those "hour long snooze hitters". He's lucky that I can sleep through anything short of a nuclear airstrike, but the one time he did it on a weekend, and I had the flu that day, he hit the snooze, and I snuck over to his alarm (a clock radio) and turned it up all the way and off of a radio station onto AM Static because I was sick of the 9 minute intervals. It went off 5 minutes later and scared the hell out of him. He didn't need to stay in bed after that!
One thing you can do is tell him to wake you up at a certain time, then wear earplugs like some people do with partners who snore like a freight train.
Otherwise, Honeypie has a very good idea. The tables do turn when it's you doing things to wake him up.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 April 2017):
 Does he GET UP when they go off? Or does he let them go off for several snoozes?
If so does he set them on the weekend? If not set YOURS really early a few weekends RIGHT next to him, see how he likes them apples.
My husband USED to like setting his alarm an HOUR before he actually had to get up which meant it went off starting at 3:30am till 4:30 am... Didn't matter that I didn't have to get up til 5:30 - however on the weekends (if he wasn't working) he HATED hearing the alarm - so I set MINE on weekend and did the same 5xsnooze that he did Mom-Fri and he GOT the picture of HOW annoying it was. He got 1 SNOOZE after that. And it worked for both of us.
So TRY it, since talking to him didn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2017): WOW! That is crazy! If not abusive to you!
Your BF is wrong on all counts.
I suspect the only way to get him to finally STOP is to LEAVE him for good.
No more annoying alarms.
There, problem solved.
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