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writes: I have been having mixed feeling about my BF of almost 2yrs. off and on for awhile. I feel terrible but he ignores me and plays games all the time. I really have this craving to go and just hang out with other guys in a friendly way. I just want to mingly with other guys ,and as terrible as it sounds see what are my other options what other guys are like. It's like I want to knew I love him because I love him, not because he was my only choice. So last night ,I was in a particularly bad mood after my Bf was kind of being neglectful and careless, an old girlfriend calls up and asks me to go camping with her,her guy, and few of his guy friends. I called and ask my BF if it would be alright and if I could use his tent, I even told him to come along with me. Not only did he decline but told me I could not go because he wasn't going with me.I told him I wouldn't go, thought about it then headed straight for my sleeping bag. I met a few jerks but had fun with a few nice, funny guys and my friend too. One guy was really nice to me and I think liked me. He asked if I had a BF, I told him I did and let him know about him. We talked and I ended up complaining to this guy a bit about my Bf,who he knew off from school, and just talked to him and had fun hanging out around the fire. Which I feel bad about now, especially about complaining about my guy. I didn't like this new guy that way, but it was fun to be out of the house and having someone nice find you attractive and pleasent to talk too. I feel like I've cheated by hanging out with other guys and after my guy said ,"No!" . I feel like I've been whorish because I did so enjoy talking and kidding with all the other guys. It was something I've never done before and would not have done if my BF was around, because the other guys would stay away from me with him around and be intimidated. Was what I did so wrong or to be considered being unfaithful? Any advice please! I don't know what to do with myself or my Boyfriend! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2006): Break up with your boyfriend now, so you can enjoy single life. You can't try other guys when you're in a relationship, I'm sure you don't want your bf considering other girls when you're still together. Your bf neglects you, you feel lonely and want to flirt with other guys. My advice would be to dump him and start dating others. You sound young so enjoy single life first.
If you decide to stick with ur bf, then stop flirting/thinking of other guys and talk with ur bf. Tell him he needs to give u the attention u need, or else u'll be gone. I went through the same situation and after 3 months of breaking up my ex who used to neglect me came back begging, only it was too little too late. I've already made numerous guy friends and I enjoy their company, with no strings attached.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006): A woman in love would not consider ways of how to bring more pain and doubt into an already eroding relationship.
Use some wisdom here.
You make a decision now. You stay in a relationship with BF or you break up and pursue other options.
You don't pursue other options while with someone...that is cheating, read other columns of husbands and wives and how things started out "innocently". *rollseyes*
I say end it now. It is apparent you desire to be single so do it.
You have already cheated on your BF and you should feel guilty which is good that you can be remorseful so stop making excuses as to why...you know full well you choose to do something that was cheating and especially after your BF disapproved. He is right to disapprove.
You wouldn't want him out camping where available women were now would you?
Take care.
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