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writes:I think its all over because I've just found out my boyfriend of 10 years has been corresponding with yet another female friend that I knew nothing about. Why didn't tell me about her when I discovered that he likes to keep in touch with a number of girlie friends. I feel a bit of a fool and this straw has definately broke the camels back! Reply to this Question
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reader, AJ jess ^..^ +, writes (6 January 2008):
 Do you know exactly what has happened between him and these 'girly-friends' i know it may be a blow to know that you bf has been talking to other girls but you have to tak to him about it to be able to assess the situation and perhaps decide about what the future is for you and him. i believe you deserve better x x good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): He sounds like my boyfriend. Masks his 'not able to be emotionally involved with just one woman' problem by saying things like "Why do you have a problem with me having female friends?" and other stuff to turn it around as if its my problem. The thing is.... when they have several of these friends it starts to get a little bit irritating doesn't it. Like the ones that call them up and ask why they aren't coming out for a drink. The married ones who text at the weekend asking how they're getting on and put kisses at the end. I've been there (am there). It is fine for men to have female friends - but the point is really that friends are usually friends of a couple - in other words they should be friends of both of yours. Why wouldn't a woman who was friends (just friends) with a man not want to meet his partner? Because they secretly are not just friends and really would like your partner to themselves. Your partner loves this attention, can't respect how you might feel about it and my view is its time to give him an ultimatum. This time - mean it. Also - I would ring up this secret friend from his phone if you can or text her and see what kind of response you get. You only have to look at the number of posts on this site about people who have got involved with someone who was just their friend etc etc and its now out of control to know that it can escalate pretty quick. Sorry to sound blunt but whats the point in putting a pretty ribbon around the situation. Good luck I hope you find happiness.
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