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writes: I'm 21 years old and i've been with the same guy since i was 16. Things were great at first then he became diabetic and life went downhill. He does't want to grow up and move out and now he does't work he works when he wants to and i work everyday. he does't have any friends anymore because once he became diabetic he has become the biggest jerk ever. He gets mad when i want to do something or go somewhere and he does'nt want to because all he wants to do is eat. Im 21 i still have my whole life to live and see new things and meet new people. We used to have so much in common we liked all the same things. Then he became diabetic now its nothing. I feel sorry for him but I'm so scared i end things he will go into a deep depresson but everyone tells me you can always worry about him and that i have so much potential and i'll find a guy who likes me and who will treat me right. He never wants to hold my hands or make out or even have sex. I m like whats up. I know he is'nt cheating cause he never leaves the house. They say its a problem with the diabetes but he won't do anything about it. All i want is a good guy who loves me and we can take care of each other and hang out im not very hard to please but according to my boyfriend im a bitch. The problem is that i don't really have anyone to lean towards for help so could anyone help me on what to do i stuck between a rock and a hard place. The big question is there real tru love out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2006): My sister is a diabetic and has been for over 20 years. Although diabetes is a manageable illness some people when first diagnosed do go into a depression, wouldn't you if you had a life threatening illness that changed how you lived and that you could never escape? Your boyfriend would benefit from joining a support group where he can talk with other people that share his illness, it will make him feel less alone, and he will get valuable ways to better manage his life...remember your boyfriend is not just his illness, but a whole person and needs to be treated as such...If he is insulin dependent if he is to remain healthy throughout life he neees to be on tight control, meaning that his blood sugar stays in the normal range as much as possible. Excercise and food intake will affect dramatically the amount of insulin he needs to take on a daily basis...it is best if he can start an excercise program and eat healthy protein snacks to keep his blood sugar stable...He may be experiencing periods of low blood sugar and having insulin reactions, this will make him moody, and even belligerent....it is not fair to hold this against him, as he can't help it, isn't doing it on purpose and won't even remember what he said...signs of insulin reaction before it happens are: He will become sort of spacey and non-responsive, he may tremble and stare and say odd things or not answer you when you talk to him, he needs sugar fast to raise his blood sugar to a normal range...testing the blood frequently can help him avoid insulin reactions....There is true love out there, and you can show your true love by learning every thing you can about his disease and how to help him manage it.. Diabetics need the support of their family and friends. However, diabetes is no excuse for mistreatment of you, and if he is doing that when he can help it, then you need to talk to him about it and ask for improvement...If you want the relationship to get better, you might consider some counseling or going to a support group yourself for family of diabetics. I live in the US, but I would think that the UK would have these type of programs available at your hospitals, or in your community...Remember to take care of yourself by maintaining the activities and friendships that you had before his illness, and this will help you lower your stress.
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