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writes:Hi everyone..! I need help.Me and my boyfriend been together for 3 years. But the thing is we're different religion. I don't eat pork he dose. I don't go to church he dose. and stuff like that. Now we try to live together. I don't know I have to throw him away or my believes? I can't throw him away cause he didn't do anything wrong. We try to talk about this but he can't change, he said he love me and everything but its sound not make sence for him to change him. He said he grow up like this. He told me he's man and I have to listen to my man.Is religion is really imporant?I believe in god but I don't really have religion believe. But my parents are very sensitive for religion. My parents said if I change my religion for him they never wanna see me again. I don't know what to do? Follow him?I love him so much. He is nice guy. No smoking, drink anything.Cool man. he is 8 years older than me and love me alot. I don't wanna loose him. Plese help me what I gonna do? we have plan to live together in October. Reply to this Question
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reader, Legioness  +, writes (23 June 2010):
 Don't change anything, don't ditch him or your religion. It may seem like the all important factor to your family but it's honestly not.
I don't believe in religion being honest, I think it's just a security blanket for people, I don't believe in God as such, but believe in a greater force. People are allowed to have their own opinions and views on anything and no one has the right to dictate that.
You can follow your religion and your partner can follow his, there's no law against it! It's like you liking arts and him liking sports- you go and do your own thing with people who also like that same thing from time to time, every couple does it!
You don't have to change who you are, or anything about you, you compromise instead- you celebrate religious festivals together, you make an arrangement on food like no pork in main meals when you're together and bring your families together so they can get to know one another properly without prejudice.
Good luck!
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