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writes: I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months and we are very happy with each other. I live in Maidstone and he lives in Essex so we only get to see each other about once a month but despite the distance our relationship is very strong. We both think we're in love for real and talk about getting married and having kids when were older.The problem is that we both really turn each other on. We are both virgins and we are both always thinking about sex with each other. My b/f and I speak about him fingering me and we both wanted to but when it actually came down to it and he went to, I pulled out and stopped him. My b/f was very understanding and if anything we became closer becuase we understand each other so well. But I was very confused at why I didn't want him to. I love him dearly and wanted to, but just couldnt. Please help me because I really want him to but I'm worried what he will think of me "down there" because I have never been fingered although I regularly masturbate.We have recently been chatting about sex and said we should wait but I went to see I'm last week and we were very very close to having sex. The only reason we didn't was because I was on my period. We both know about contraception and trust and love each other but I'm scared I won't know what to do and it will go horribly wrong because both of us are virgins.I'm always thinking about it and what it would be like and I really want to and so does he.please help , many thanks
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reader, benjiluver +, writes (7 April 2005):
 I think you hold back because you're just as afraid. It's perfectly natural. You're fine and men don't usually get good til college, so you're not really missing anything, but it's fine if you do it.
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reader, benjiluver +, writes (7 April 2005):
OK, since he is very understanding, then this will be a cinch. :) OK, since you are both virins, the best part is that he won't know the difference. Just do it. I mean, you guys only live once in a lifetime, even though I've heard it's even better to wait til you're married, but if you don't want to wait, it's fine. Many people do it, but then you run the risk of getting pregnant. I think you guys should just use your hands and then toys on each other and give him a blowjob. You can find out how to do that on somebody else's question and answer, then explain everything. Remember it takes two people to have sex so include each other. :)I hope I've helped you.
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