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*ekoyuki15
writes:My boyfriend and I seem to be drifting apart. We're young-18, but I love him more than anything. Things just seem to be getting in the way of us lately- I know he's not cheating or anything, thats not what I'm worried about. What do you think I can do to help? What can I do to bring back the magic and get close again? We're starting to get at eachothers throats and we argue. But, I want to try to 'save us'? Any opinions?? (thanks)^_^; Reply to this Question
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reader, agony anuts rubby  +, writes (6 December 2007):
 hi my name is agony anut rubby .
you are still young so dont get rushing into anything to soon.the best way you can bring magic back is start from the beginning as like you have just met.
In the beginning of a relationship romance can occur naturally. Everything seems to be touched with romance. It is natural to give flowers and gifts because you want to show your lover how much you care. Everything you do in the beginning is to attract and keep the other person. Once you begin to feel secure in your relationship the romance may dwindle and with time it can go right down to nothing. Then security and contentment can breed boredom.
When you are in a secure relationship you can forget to do the little things that mean so much to the other person. You can even forget to express your feelings and tell them how much you care for them. Your significant other is not psychic and we all like to hear that we are loved and appreciated. You have to make a conscious effort to bring the romance back into your relationship. Romance does not just happen. Someone has to initiate it, someone has to plan it.
To bring back the romance, be creative. Do not be afraid to be sentimental or silly. Romance can be fun and it will do wonders for keeping your relationship alive and new. Use romance to light the flames of passion to make your relationship stronger. There are many ways to bring romance into your life. Some can be as simple as writing a little note that says "I Love You" and leaving it where your partner can find it unexpectedly. Romance can also be extravagant like a horse drawn carriage ride ending at a romantic restaurant or a nice hotel where the two of you will spend an evening together.
try going back to the start remeber how you flet you can be there again.
good luck rubyxx
ps let me now if it works out.
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