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writes:I'm jealous of my best friend.But not for the reasons you'd expect. My best friend moved away a year ago. We often chat online. I have always been very interested in graphic design and art and suddenly she has muscled in. I don't mind much, but it's annoying me because ...she found a website where you could order cute shirts and make your own slogans and designs for a shirt and send it in. she asked me to help her make one, and I agreed. she said she would split the money if it actually became a shirt.I told her to draw the design, and then I would help her smooth it out and fix the coloring and such. I did that and I helped. It was a little plain so I told her to add another element. She agreed, added it, and we submitted it.Now on Facebook she has posted a link to it, telling people to "Vote for my desiiiiiggnnnn!"HER design? It is not entirely her design .. it is my design too. I helped her. It was a collaboration ... and people are commenting saying things like "WOW. That design is GORGEOUS!" and I commented and said, in a sort of joking way, "Yeah, I helped make it! Haha." and I even threw in some compliments like "Isn't she good at drawing? I told her she was really good at it. If you guys tell her she'll end up believing me! Haha!"I know, I shouldn't be jealous, but I have a habit of sort of launching everyone, and no one launches me in return or even mentions me. It feels horrible.My mother told me to confront her -- but what do I say?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): You could meet up with your friend and sit down, have a chat- tell her that you feel that she stole all of the credit for your design and it wasn't fair. Better yet, take it as a learning lesson and just move on. It isn't worth arguing with or confronting people like that. Pursue your own passions, find other ways to display your work- maybe an internship somewhere in graphic design. Yes, she took credit and hurt you, but eventually people will realize she has no talent and you do!!
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reader, DLTSLove  +, writes (5 September 2009):
You need to tell her that this is unfair on you. Put it lightly, maybe jokingly but make sure she gets the message. Don't just go and start commenting because she will think that you are trying to get all the credit and get people to take sides. You don't want an argument do you. Also, she probably sees it as HER design. In her mind, she designed it, you just helped and she doesn't understand to give credit when credit is due. You may want to say to her (best in person) "Hey, didn't I do that bit?" and just go from there. Good luck x
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