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writes:Okay, I'm back again. I am a 44 year old female falling for a 31 year old female. She had a mass on her ovary and was scared to death it was cancer. She said she prayed and heard the Lord's voice. She said the Lord told her she would find love and she asked the Lord if it was "me" and the Lord told her it would in fact be a man. She is very anti-male. She met with me the other day and told me this very long story but before she told me she said she was very scared that the story would make me turn my back on her. It took her almost 3 months to tell me. She said before this intervention by the Lord she was ready to have long term relationship with me. In fact she said she was thinking we should live together. We have only ever kissed and have not had sex. She said she talks about me all the time to anyone that will listen. She has wanted to walk around with me hand in hand and she has wanted me to put my arm around her. She said she was not told when the man would enter her life but she indicated to me that she would give it a year. She feels she has to scale back our relationship and move slow because she honestly believes the Lord spoke to her and she does not want to ignore that. I asked her if it would help if I stopped flirting with her and she said she wanted me to continue to treat her the way I always have. I don't understand that! She told me she moves very slow in relationships. We have only known each other for 5 months. She seemed very upset when I told her I needed to re-evaluate the situation and make choices for me that are in my best interest as well. I can tell you this she almost started to cry when I said that. She asked me to please not re-evaluate, let's just take things slower in case what I heard was in fact the Lord's voice. Please give me your best advice on this. I am really into this girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2005): Maybe taking this relationship slowly would be a good thing as you would be able to get to know each other really well. Taking your time may even make your relationship stronger. Perhaps she is confused about her sexuality maybe she has been told she is in the wrong for being with a woman, when she isn't in the wrong at all. If she really wants to make a go of it with you then it is probably worth your while to take things slowly anyway and who knows, you may end up moving in together one day and be really happy. As for the voice of the Lord, don't worry, he has given us freedom of choice and if she really wants to she should use it and be with you. You sound nice and she should be glad she has you and not worry about the future but enjoy the present with you and not worry about the unknown.
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