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writes: My best friend, recently admitted to me that she fancies me. We are both 13 years old. I saw her crying, and I eventually dragged out of her what was wrong. Apparently she has fancied me for ages, and was worried I'd freak out when she told me. I wish I didn't know, because we won't be the same now, because it's hard to talk to her, and I can't give her hugs like I used to. Only 2 other people know. It's got me really down, and I want my best friend again, how we were. Please help me out :(
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (19 June 2006):
 Oh boy. Distance yourself for a while sweetie, then maybe things will click into place later on. Just remember girls mature emotionally earlier than boys, so what she feels now you may be feeling when you are sixteen.
I wish you luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2006): well thats a hard one.They say friends make good lovers but i think friendships last longer than relationships due to being emotionally attached and whats expcted in a relationship but its up to how you feel about her...make a genuine decision.good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2005): Hi, Well,there's two options here.You can either venture down bf-gf lane and see how things work out,or you can tell her that you think she is totally awesome but you just want to be friends. And even if you were to go out with her and break up,that doesn't neccesarily mean that you guys would avoid each other.My friend broke up with her boyfriend(my crush)and they are still friends.Best wishes,Sarah
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reader, carolyn +, writes (26 June 2005):
tell her that you like her, but only as a really good friend, and that if you were to go out and then break up, it would probably ruin the relatinship you had in the first place.i was in the same position a year ago,and you learn to get over it, and me and the guy are still the best of mates.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2005): In the tender age of 13, everything seems to be bigger than it usually is. So please sit her down (face to face, not over the phone/email) and tell her that since she's your best friend, going down the bf-gf route is not an option for you as it will get awkward and ruin a good thing. What if you guys did get together but things didn't work out? Then y'all would be avoiding each other and it'll never be the same as it was before. So sit her down, tell her you love her as a best friend and you'd rather have her in your life that way (plus you can still give her platonic hugs!). Remember, rejection is painful so be gentle about it. Good luck!
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