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writes:Ok this isn’t a bf gf question it’s for my best friend who might as well be my sister. We have been the best of friends for about 5 months I think...I don’t know time fly’s when I’m with her. Hers the problem I feel like our friendship is slowly dying. When I’m with her it’s not really as match fun. We live a couple towns away so our main way of talking is texting and the internet. she started to change into this person where if you tried to talk about anything personal (and I mean anything like she’s not comfortable telling me the cereal she likes) she imeadiatly wont talk at all. latelly she stopped texting me completelly, the only times she does text its to tell me to stop texting because her dad is going to take her phone (I don’t know why he takes it I really don’t) but if I don’t send her texts she gets mad. And we use to say good night and good morning every night and morning but now I’m the only one saying it. So basically I’m suppose to have a 1 person conversation on the phone and online and I can’t stop or she gets mad. Also she forgot my birthday 4 days ago so I felt like crap now because her saying happy birthday to me was the only person i actually wanted to hear it from. Now she barely says anything online besides lol which I’m starting to think she’s just typing that to make me think she is paying attention because she even says it when I purposely say a bad joke. one more thing she wanted me to get on the phone and call her so I did then she typed online that she won’t be talking but would just listen so now I’m literally having a one person conversation almost as if she has laryngitis and cant speak (another time she wanted me to SING into the phone which I really didn’t want to do but I asked if I sung would she talk on the phone and she said no so now I’m suppose to sing and talk and I cant even hear anything from her, so now i bacically have to bribe her to talk its so bad). I don’t understand what is happening we would spend every second together every day and share everything but now we barely spend time 3 days a week together and even then she seems to be totally and completely distracted. I just don’t know what to do
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reader, benc57 +, writes (8 December 2010):
benc57 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni doubt that cause theres a age differeance and when we were 2 months into teh friendship i thought i loved her and she shot me down XD but its ok now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): I think she probably just likes u and dosent no what to day do she wants u to talk so of u say that u like her she won't b the one making the first move
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reader, benc57 +, writes (6 December 2010):
benc57 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys im gona see if i can get the nerve up to do one of thease things. cause im trying to find the way thats the easyest or the one that will hurt the least amount. she gets charged a rediculous amount for texts so i might have forgotten that fact...but 2 texts for g night and g morning shouldnt cost a lot also...im confusing myself
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (6 December 2010):
 Aw! Im so sorry :( you sound totally nice so shes really missing out if she is willing to lose your friendship. She may be acting this way because something personal has happend. The next time you hang out confront her. Tell her you have something important to say, and since lately she doesnt like talking anyways, she can just listen. Tell her how you are feeling. Then ask for an explanation. If she gets upset with you about asking, wont give you an answer or says your being to clingy or insecure(which you arent at all!) then tell her she obviously needs her space and that she cant expect you to have one sided convos and then get mad at you when you do txt her. Maybe, and only if she gets upset with you and doesnt give you the answer you deserve, tell her you wont be txting her anymore, she needs to txt you when she is ready. Depending on her reason for treating you this way (not rily best friendish) you may need to step back and stop trying so hard. That sounds crazy right?!? But if she has something going on and wont tell you, eventually youll get tired of the fake lol's and the silence and shell get tired of you constantly wanting to tlk to her txt her and so on (i dont mean every second) Taking a step back and making her put some effort into it will either make her realize how important you are to her, or make you realize that the friendship wasnt important enough to her for her to try. It may sting, and you may not want to (this may come as a break up for the friendship) but if things continue you are going to be the person in the relationship that puts in all the effort is constantly unhappy gets hurts, but cant give up. Let her make that decision. If shes the friend you say she is, if she cares about you like you do her, then she wouldnt chance losing you. You sound like a great friend. Dont let yourself b treated like a sh1++y one. Happy Belated Birthday btw. :)
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reader, Steelhawk65 +, writes (6 December 2010):
 I've had a very similiar experiance myself, and I was in your exact spot. Try sending her a text saying something like "Hey, I'll just get to the point... I really miss talking to you." That's just if you want it to be short, sweet, and to the point. BUT, you could add something like "I miss the days when I'd wake up with a nice 'good morning' from my best friend." but that's just what I did, and it seems to be working! Good luck!:)
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reader, Marzela +, writes (6 December 2010):
Just talk to her but tell her that u want to see her not over the phone or online.
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reader, zebramint +, writes (6 December 2010):
 You sound really upset..hmmm well I had the same experience before summer ended. Im a girl and my best friend was a guy and we were with each other all the time and the whole summer we were so close. Like you said how you always said good night and good morning. we did that too, but when school started slowly but surely he was becoming more and more distant. Then i started dating one of our mutual friends and it went aaaall down hill. We just arent as close. So yeah I know how it feels man..Geesh well whatever you do you will always regret letting your friendship die. Dont let it happen. If you guys were so close I think you have the right to ask her why you two are drifting farther and farther apart. And plan a day to hang out with each other and play video game s and stuff. I mean..its hard when somebodys kinda acting like a bitch but you should get down to the bottom of it. Hope I helped you dude :)
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