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writes:my best friend has the hottest brother that i know he is so my type he is like my dream boy that all girls dream of when there little. my friend knows that i like him and she is fine with it. but the problem is i dont know how to tell him that i really like him. he lives very far away and he dosent come down to see her often. so how would i have a relationship with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): Heyya hun, you're lucky to find someone you feel for like that and i think you should just tell him. But don't make too big of a deal about it. Chances are he could feel the same way about you. Also its nice you have your best mates approval, not alot of friends would accept it.
I have a few tips if you wish to pursue the relationship for if you don't see him that often.
Communicate in some way every day, more than once if possible. Since you won't be seeing each other that often, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. These don't have to be long, in-depth conversations (though those should occur sometimes). Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask for advice. Use an instant messenger program or VoIP for real-time chat, or web cams for that visual connection, but while instant messaging and e-mails play a large role in long distance relationships, remember that they can in no way replace verbal communication. E-mail is great so make sure you use it, especially if long-distance phone calls put a strain on your budget.(Even though phone calls might get a little too expensive, there are special cards if you are to call each other from different countries, there will be no problems with costs since it is very cheap. We highly recommend you get one of those cards, it will be a lot cheaper and from experience E-mail and instant messages makes it easier to misunderstand each other.) Write love letters. Send small gifts or flowers for no reason. In this case, quantity is as important as quality. You may discover an advantage over others whose partner is close at hand - you don't take communication for granted!
Take advantage of the benefits a long distance relationship offers: more time with friends and/or family, no arguments over toothpaste caps, the pleasure of seeing your sweetheart again after a long absence, time to mull your options (rather than snapping at your partner impulsively) before you respond to that email s/he wrote that seemed so rude the first time you read it, etc. Most important, being far apart gives you a chance to maintain your individuality - something that can get lost in the shuffle when couples spend all their free time together.
Pursue common interests, even if it means pursuing them apart. Stargaze while on you're on the phone. Set your watches to go off at the same time every day, and synchronize your alarm with that of your partner. Make it a point to think of each other when your watch goes off, and revel in the fact that he or she is thinking about you, too. Find creative ways to bond.
I hope that helps deardry...
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reader, lushlass93  +, writes (22 June 2008):
 i dont know if this could work but if you like him just tell him and see what he says back mabey it could work but there are others out there just because hye may seem like a dream boyfriend he will still have faults and also you have to talk to your friend and see how this will effect her she was there before him and will be after
good luck xxxxx
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