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writes:So my best friend's boyfriend likes me and her and I like him as well. I feel horrible for liking him even though I liked him before they started going out. He says we should just wait even though he keeps telling me he loves me. I don't know what to do
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (15 August 2017):
 It is absolutely wrong what the two of you have been doing behind your friends back.
Firstly, you and him should not be alone to even have time to profess your feelings for each other.
Secondly, you should not be crushing on your friends boyfriend or he on you.
Thirdly, he's full of crap.
All he's doing is keeping you as a back up option in case things with your friend fails and then guess what? if you get with him after he has been with her, that WILL ruin your friendship with her because friends don't date friends exes. It's girl code.
You should tell this guy where to get off and let that be that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2017): Never show your friends two faces. The boy is being sneaky and he is still making your friend believe he is her boyfriend.
To be a real friend, you have to draw the line when it comes to boyfriends and girlfriends. He is already taken, and it's very nice you like each other. Your friend is trusting both of you. Is she wrong to do that?
Keep your feelings to yourself; because telling him what you feel is crossing the line. It is wrong. You can like what your friends have, but you don't go behind their backs to get it. That's not a friend.
It's too late now, I know you have already exchanged words about how you feel. You knew that was wrong, but you did it anyway.
Do you really want a boy who will go behind your back and tell other girls he likes them; and ask them to wait until he can get rid of you, and then they can be together?
You really don't need advice. You know right from wrong, and in your heart you already know you shouldn't keep secrets with your friend's boyfriend. When they breakup, think of your friend first. Tell him you love your friend and will not date her ex. It will be hard, but it will make you a better person. Do it, and someday it will happen to you and you'll know how bad it feels.
No, you can't date him after they break up. That's terrible.
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reader, judgedick  +, writes (14 August 2017):
 he is a waste of time, he is with your best friend and he is warming you up at the same time, if he was with you how happy would you be if he was telling other girls that he likes them too, at best he can't be trusted and is the type that gives guys a bad name,
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 August 2017):
 How good of a friend IS your best friend? Is she someone you trust with everything (more or less) someone you have known for ages, someone you "love" like a sister?
IF so, consider HOW you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot and YOU were dating a guy and she was running around behind your back batting her eyelashes and flirting with YOUR BF. How would you feel? I bet you YOUR friend will feel WAY more betrayed by YOUR action than that of a BF. Because a BEST friend is supposed to HAVE your back. A BEST friend is someone you should TRUST. Not someone you should worry about going AFTER your BF.
Just like YCBS said, if he DOES this to his GF (your BFF) he can/will do it to you. Sorry, OP you are NOt super special in a way where a guy who cheats on his GF will NOT cheat on you. You have no magic power. A guy who treats his GF badly... will treat the next one badly too.
Most though, TAKE a few minutes and consider your actions and what consequences they might have. Are you ready to lose your BFF over a guy whom you might not date for long before he looks for YOUR replacement?
Is that the kind of "image" you want? The girl who CHASES other girls BF's? The girl who betrayed her BFF over a guy? Because you know how SAVAGE your peers ( people your own age at your middle or high school) are.
Your BFF will blame you 100 times more than she would blame her BF.
Do you really need this drama in your life?
You are being a shitty freind.
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (13 August 2017):
If they break up and you start dating him, you will lose your best friend! And he'll have a designated back-up for when he messes things up with you. This guy is not worth it. I'm not for snitching, but if your friend is having sex with him I'd let her know. If she gets pregnant this guy will leave her the moment he hears about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2017): This is that age when you start defining who you are as a person, as a woman, what you are willing to do and compromise. Just think of who you want to become, so you can get a clear answer of how you want to handle the situation. I hope this helps. Love, M
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2017): remember dear. if he can cheats somebody just to be with u, he might do the same thing to u in the future. and also bestfriend boyfriend
u can easily find a boyfriend but u cant find a bestfriend that easily u know?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (13 August 2017):
 He's putting you "on hold" for when his relationship with your best friend runs out of steam or when they fall out.
Being best friends means no poaching each other's boyfriends. How would you feel if YOU were in the relationship with him and SHE was flirting with him? Horrible? Then have some empathy for her and stay away from him.
If he is doing this behind HER back, he will do the same to you. You are worth better.
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