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writes:My best friend has been dating her boyfriend for two years. A few days ago he tried to kiss me but i didn't let it happen. That day he confessed me he had been wondering for about six months why he hadn't met me before he met his girlfriend. I tried to make him understand that neither him or me can do this to her. At the end he thanked me for the "lecture" but he didnt know what was going to happen with her. We both promised we were going to forget and pretend that day never happened. My friend seems to be more happy than ever with him,but i cant stop thinking about what happened and feel kind of guilty. Should I tell her even if it's going to break her heart or if he doesnt show any more interest in me, should i just let it happen.????? thanks a lot for your time.
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reader, cindyjunior  +, writes (9 June 2009):
Be very careful. Although she is your friend and the best thing seems to be to tell her the truth, if the boyfriend is dishonest enough to try and kiss you and say all these things about your friend behind her back, he is probably also dishonest enough to deny everything you tell her when she confronts him. If they have been together two years, think who she is realistically likely to believe- you or him? He could manipulate her into thinking you like him and/or are jealous of their relationship, particularly if you are single yourself. It may be in the best interests of your friendship with her to encourage the boyfriend to open up to her about how he feels, but otherwise to take a step back. Best of luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): You really should tell her. The same thing happened to me, my boyfriend tried to kiss my bestfriend and neither of them told me. Ignorance isn't bliss believe me. If you really are her friend then do what's best for her, he obviously isn't good for her.
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reader, nokutenda  +, writes (5 December 2008):
tell your friend,she may get angry,be hurt but in the end she will thank you for your honestyput yourself in her shoes,what would you like your friend to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): If her boyfriend is going to be the best he can be for her and you are going to remain her best friend, there is no reason in hell either of you should tell her what happened. Because in all honesty, nothing DID happen. He confessed something but you did not kiss or do anything physical. No reason at all to make your guilt her misery.Leave it be and try to get over it.
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reader, This Kid +, writes (5 December 2008):
Oh! I have totally been there. (My story: My bff dated a guy that I was 'talking' to at the time, but we have only been talking for a day, so my bff didn't really een know I liked him. And then I found out that her and that guy I was talking to, are dating! SO I was ok. But a week after he tried to kiss me and I like.. RAN! Haha. But he hasn't stopped trying sence they started dating. And so I just TRIED and tried to ignore him. Like try not to run into him in the hallways at school. Stuff like that.)So anyways! I just waited to be honest. But when they were breaking up, (he was breaking up with her) and she was upset, so I just told her then that he wasn't as worth it as she thought. That's when she asked me to explain. Therefore I did. I told her that he has tried to kiss me numerous times. And that THAT was the real reason why I didn't like him, and why I would ignore him all the time.Well she just started crying, and kept asking me why I didn't tell her before. And I didn't know what else to say other then 'idk' So my advice: As hard as it'll be to just come right out and say it, I think you should to tell her now, she wont be AS mad. But she will be hurt. but it IS the right thing to do. Sooooo if you don't tell her then it's just not going to be anything for THEM to worry about.
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