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*mmerBaby
writes:Me and my ex boyfriend were together for about 2 years and split up just a few months ago. My best friend told me today that she snogged him today and i really don't know how i feel. I still love my ex to pieces but don't want to tell him this. To top it all my best friend has a boyfriend. I am so upset :(. What Do i Do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): Can you distance yourself from the whole thing - sounds very messy and the only thing that will suffer is your mental state. I don't think this person is a true friend. I would never do that to a mate - she must know you still have feelings.
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reader, M][KE +, writes (3 July 2008):
I'm sorry to hear about your situation.
If you friend was single and had true feelings for your ex, then maybe you could understand her actions. However she is not and has betrayed your trust and her own boyfriends.
If she is your best-friend, surely she would know how you feel about you ex. However your ex kissed her too and would have know it would hurt your feelings. For example would you do this to his best-friend?
I would definitely talk to your friend and tell her how you feel about what she has done. Does her own boyfriend know what she has done,; how does he feel?
I wouldn't communicate with your ex if your are trying to get over the break-up. It may sound odd, but when people break up it happens for a good reason. It's the heart that has trouble letting go and maybe him kissing your best-friend can make you feel that he is your ex for a reason.
I hope this help putting things in perspective for you and hope you feel better. Best wishes M][KE
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (3 July 2008):
 When it's over, it's over. He's your ex, and who he is involved with (and how) is no longer your affair. It's shameful that she's running around behind her guy's back, but that's their problem and not yours either.
Stay clear of this floating soap opera and find a guy with better standards than to bird dog on somebody else's bird.
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (2 July 2008):
 It was a betrayal, yes but not of friendship. It was a betrayal of trust between your friend and her boyfriend. You'd be best to stay out of this as you'll only get stuck in a bad position and the blame could go to you because it was your ex she kissed.
Sorry about the long winded-ness of that.
Good luck
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